Adira’s Story
Nov. 16th, 2025 12:06 am![[syndicated profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/feed.png){kind=small}
post_secret_feedDear Frank,
I write to you with incredible news. Last month, I brought home my new service dog, Tango. This was made possible by this Sunday Secret Post.
That post led to nearly $10,000 of donations within 2 weeks! I send all my love to you and to every single person from the PostSecret community and beyond who contributed, as well as those who weren’t able to contribute but still saw the post and hoped on my behalf. You all have made something amazing happen for this 25-year-old woman who is now so excited for the life of independence, freedom, and trust Tango and I are building together.
Thank you for hearing me and helping me that chilly day in Connecticut several years ago, Frank. The secret I shared in that auditorium was one of despair, believing I would never be able to partner with a service dog of my own. I am so grateful to be able to look back on that day and smile because I just didn’t know yet what good fortune was coming my way.
If you would like to make a difference in someone’s life this Giving Tuesday, please consider the following non-profits.
Educated Canines Assisting with Disabilities
Active Minds – Promoting Student Mental Wellness
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PostSecret Live! Story
Nov. 16th, 2025 12:02 ampost_secret_feed
Dear Frank,
A few years ago, I came to one of your shows in Ohio. I was in a really bad season of life – my depression and anxiety were bogging me down. Most days, I did not want to be alive. I had counseling the day of the show, and I told my counselor that it was free and I had been waiting years to be able to go to one of your shows, but that my depression wasn’t allowing me to even feel excited at the opportunity. She convinced me to go, and I will always be thankful for that. I ended up getting a seat right next to the stage and it was so awesome. I cried almost the whole time because I had felt actual joy again for what felt like the first time in forever. I was surrounded by strangers, yet somehow felt we were all connected by just being there together.
Anyways, you ended up giving me one of the books in the middle of your show, and had written a message in it (I didn’t yet know this) At some point, you offered people to go to the back/side of the room where there were microphones – you said we could share a secret or a story. I quietly got up and went to the back so I could share. While I was waiting, to my surprise, you said something along the lines of “there was a young lady sitting up here who I gave the book to. I had written a message in there but I think she left?” To which I shouted, “no, I’m just back here!!!!” I ended up sharing with the audience about how I came to know about PostSecret (two of my best friends who I feel have changed my life forever, for the better, introduced me to you and your website and your books) and how I struggled with suicidal thoughts and how coming to your show that night was the first think that felt right that whole year.
I cried into the microphone as I shared what reading the Sunday secrets for all these years has done for me and I thanked you for helping me feel known, seen, and heard. You walked from the stage to meet me as I was waking back to my seat and hugged me. I cried even more! You said to the audience something along the lines of, “it’s ironic that you shared your story tonight, because the message I wrote in your book says, “the world needs to hear your voice!” and it was just such a moment! You also handed me the dollar bill you had kept in your wallet, the one that had, “we are all part of something bigger and we are all part of it together.” I cried, again! To no surprise haha. I felt such happiness, such gratitude. I called my mom after the show and she ended up writing you on Facebook to thank you because she had been so worried about me. Anyways, I just wanted to tell you thank you. You have no idea how much that night meant and still means to me. I’m happy to report that life is better these days. I still have anxiety and depression, but I don’t want to die anymore. I framed that dollar bill and I see it everyday and I’m reminded that it’s good to be alive, even when it doesn’t always feel like it.
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Holiday Wishes 2025 is now open!
Nov. 15th, 2025 09:01 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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holiday_wishesGo forth and post (one wishlist per person)! If you're unfamiliar with the rules or need a refresher, you can find them here on the community profile. Wishlists will be accepted through December 31, 2025.
Once your wishlist has been approved, remember to tag it with at least one tag for each of the six categories listed on this post (Region, Country, Username, Holidays, Week, Category). If the tag you want to use isn't already available, you can post a comment to that post to request that it be created. In the case of fandom- or fanwork-related wishes, please tag for all fandoms requested.
Fanworks created to fulfill wishes can be posted to the AO3 collection.
Note About Shipping: At various times, shipping may be difficult in some parts of the world. If you know this is likely to be an issue for someone mailing you something, we encourage you to make a note about this in your wishlist. Editing your wishlist after the fact is therefore expressly permitted for the purpose of addressing the best ways of getting wished-for items to you.
I wish you all a wonderful holiday season! :)
Once your wishlist has been approved, remember to tag it with at least one tag for each of the six categories listed on this post (Region, Country, Username, Holidays, Week, Category). If the tag you want to use isn't already available, you can post a comment to that post to request that it be created. In the case of fandom- or fanwork-related wishes, please tag for all fandoms requested.
Fanworks created to fulfill wishes can be posted to the AO3 collection.
Note About Shipping: At various times, shipping may be difficult in some parts of the world. If you know this is likely to be an issue for someone mailing you something, we encourage you to make a note about this in your wishlist. Editing your wishlist after the fact is therefore expressly permitted for the purpose of addressing the best ways of getting wished-for items to you.
I wish you all a wonderful holiday season! :)
Pinch Hitter Prompts 2025
Nov. 16th, 2025 05:11 pmyuletidemods posting in yuletide_adminEvery year, well over a hundred pinch hitters take on extra assignments. Many of these pinch hitters are signed up to Yuletide, with an assigned writer and recipient from the start. Some are not!
Though these supporting pinch hitters are not guaranteed a gift, we'd like to make it a possibility. On this post, we're collecting prompts from the pinch hitters who are not signed up to Yuletide, so that others may give them treats.
To writers
Please consider writing a treat for a pinch hitter! See instructions for how, where, and when to post a treat. Full-length gifts for pinch hitters are welcome in the Main collection.
To pinch hitters
If you are signed up to Yuletide this year, this post does not apply to you, but we still hope you enjoy your gift(s).
If you are not signed up to Yuletide this year but you have claimed or posted a pinch hit, please comment to this post with your requests! Please limit yourself to Yuletide-eligible fandoms, but you can ask for more than 8 different fandoms.
Yuletide 2025 tag set on AO3
Tag set as a browser app
You can treat your comment as a Dear Writer letter, with likes and prompts, or include a link to a letter. Either way, please include the following information when you comment:
-your AO3 name
-your requested fandoms [please format the fandoms exactly as they are in the tag set if possible]
-your requested characters
and, optionally, ideas for what you would like to receive, DNWs, and/or (a) link(s) to other places where you have written about what you would like. You're welcome to comment on mini-challenge posts!
Thank you, pinch hitters! And thank you to anyone on the lookout to pick up a pinch hit - we will post them atyuletide_pinch_hits throughout the exchange.
Schedule, Rules, & Collection | Contact Mods | Participant DW | Participant LJ | Pinch Hits on DW | Discord | Tag set | Tag set app
Please either comment logged-in or sign a name. Unsigned anonymous comments will be left screened. And specifically, if you would like to get a treat, we need your AO3 name so we know whom to give it to!
Though these supporting pinch hitters are not guaranteed a gift, we'd like to make it a possibility. On this post, we're collecting prompts from the pinch hitters who are not signed up to Yuletide, so that others may give them treats.
To writers
Please consider writing a treat for a pinch hitter! See instructions for how, where, and when to post a treat. Full-length gifts for pinch hitters are welcome in the Main collection.
To pinch hitters
If you are signed up to Yuletide this year, this post does not apply to you, but we still hope you enjoy your gift(s).
If you are not signed up to Yuletide this year but you have claimed or posted a pinch hit, please comment to this post with your requests! Please limit yourself to Yuletide-eligible fandoms, but you can ask for more than 8 different fandoms.
Yuletide 2025 tag set on AO3
Tag set as a browser app
You can treat your comment as a Dear Writer letter, with likes and prompts, or include a link to a letter. Either way, please include the following information when you comment:
-your AO3 name
-your requested fandoms [please format the fandoms exactly as they are in the tag set if possible]
-your requested characters
and, optionally, ideas for what you would like to receive, DNWs, and/or (a) link(s) to other places where you have written about what you would like. You're welcome to comment on mini-challenge posts!
Thank you, pinch hitters! And thank you to anyone on the lookout to pick up a pinch hit - we will post them at
yuletide_pinch_hits throughout the exchange.Please either comment logged-in or sign a name. Unsigned anonymous comments will be left screened. And specifically, if you would like to get a treat, we need your AO3 name so we know whom to give it to!
Slo-Mo Rewatch: Guardian episode 6, part 1
Nov. 16th, 2025 04:17 pmchina_shop posting in sid_guardian
Hi, and welcome back to the Guardian drama Slo-Mo Rewatch. Watch half an episode a week, at your leisure, and then come and chat about it here in comments. Or you can just jump into the comments without rewatching, of course!
Here are the previous weeks' rewatch posts.
Episode 6, up to 22:45
Summary
The SID interview and fail to comfort Ji Xiaobai about his missing fiancée, Weiwei. Chu Shuzhi and Changcheng take him out for some air, and Chu Shuzhi sees something of his twin brother in Changcheng. While they're gone, Weiwei comes back. At night, Shen Wei asks half-transformed Ying Chun if she can help him find someone. Their conversation is interrupted by the arrival of Zhao Yunlan on his motorbike. In Shen Wei's office, Zhao Yunlan and Shen Wei discuss the case and flirt. ♥ ♥ ♥
Ji Xiaobai knows the returned Weiwei isn't the woman he loves; he tracks down Changcheng, and the SID go into the mirror dimension to get to the bottom of things. In the mirror, Ji Xiaobai chooses the wrong (human) Weiwei. Spurned (Dixingren) Weiwei threatens to explode them all. The Envoy stops her and takes her away, but not before he and Zhao Yunlan talk privately about softening the SID's deportation policy.
Quote
Shen Wei: This is the first time.
Zhao Yunlan: What first time?
Shen Wei: The first time you don't think I am linked to a case and simply come to consult me.
Detail
I'm always amused that Chu Shuzhi produces (randomly, from his coat pocket?) two cans of beer and offers one to Ji Xiaobai, completely unapologetically leaving Guo Changcheng out. He still thinks of Changcheng as someone he's babysitting, not a partner.
Questions
Do you have a stand-out favourite scene or quote from the first half of episode 6? What do you think of Guo Changcheng's technique for handling Ji Xiaobai? How about Chu Shuzhi's? How happy are you to see Ying Chun in bush and half-transformed states? Best thing about Zhao Yunlan consulting Shen Wei in his office at night? (Hint: all of it!) Any thoughts about how the mirror 'verse works? (Are all mirrors connected? What about mirrors in Dixing? If Zhao Yunlan and the others can pass through, can anyone at any time?) What's with all the bathrooms? Did you see any parallels in these scenes with other parts of the drama?
If you're familiar with the novel, any thoughts about how the drama adaptation compares, if at all?
(As usual, these are all just conversation starters - feel free to answer all, some, or none, and to say as much or as little as you like! You don't have to be keeping up with the rewatch to join in. We'd love to hear your thoughts!)
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Egyptian mummies building rockets, that’s crazy!
Nov. 16th, 2025 01:13 amshadowhiveThursday’s appointment went ok, though was annoying. I went early thinking I could get there and wait inside but nope, the lunch hour for the opticians is between 1-2 (which makes having appointments at 2 feel really odd). It was just using a new peripheral testing machine which was fine though for some reason my eye decided to water part way through.
When I got back I watched the Pokopia thing I missed and ahh it looks so good! It really feels like it’s a Pokémon version of animal crossing, though it lets you have way more Pokémon than you could ac villagers. It feels there’s more to it than just a life sim though, there is a mystery aspect teased and I’m so curious. I really am so hyped for it.
(And speaking games I’ve still not sorted Hyrule Warriors. I was thinking of getting it when my money went in but I’ve still not. I think it’s partly cause I wanna finish Pokémon ZA first, I don’t want it to fall by the wayside like silksong and hades II. But also I know sales are coming and mums annoying friend so…)
In the night there was Taskmaster which was fun. It was the final and everyone wore pirate outfits and honestly? They all looked incredible in them. This was a pretty fun group too! Instead of just teasing one thing the post show trailer shown the new year treat and next champion of champions which was a surprise. I guess the latter is coming pretty soon.
Yesterday ended up being lazy day which I had expected cause of deliveries but we also got hit by the storm so it was raining and windy all day, to the point we didn’t even walk Naryu. Instead we just bundled up, finished Murder Before Evansong, which was pretty good, than children in need, which was eh and Sister Boniface which was good too if a tad sad.
Of the deliveries one was fine one wasn’t. The first was the 5 Seconds Of Summer order which was meant to be a picture vinyl and cd. However when I opened the package there was the vinyl but no sign of the cd. I’ve contacted support so we’ll see what happens. I did order the member cds cause the bundle came back, with a signed card (damnit Ashton and Luke signing on themselves so their signatures aren’t clear😭) so not having the regular one isn’t a big loss but still… (thoughts on the album in another post when I’ve listened more).
The other package was fine. It had the new Lego Star Wras advent calendar cause it had £14 off (and it’s cool, it’s got a bunch of droids!) and a buildable pokedex which I didn’t know was a thing till I saw it in an email. It looks so cool though, it’s pretty much lifesize and even has a light! The screen is also a set of plates with lenticular images so it can shown one of 5 pokemon (the kanto OG starters, Pikachu and Eevee) so it is pretty cool! It also has a stand which can hold the plates but it doesn’t seem to be as secure as it could be.
In the night I watched the IT blu ray that I got last week and it was pretty wild. Like all I knew about it was the sewer drain scene from the start and I didn’t expect it to be as brutal as it was. But yeah thewhole thing was wild I so intrigued by the lore stuff and to see some in welcome to Derry (but having that fire for the film backstory is such a bad choice) and I’m super curious to see chapter 2, hopefully soon.
The cex in town does have it listed in stock so I’ll swing by when I pick up my jacket (they’re pretty much right next to each other) so hopefully it’ll be there. The plan for that trip has also been changed too. The cinema added a morning showing for Keeper so I’ll see it then, which is better than seeing it at 5:40 like I was gonna cause it means I’ll be back before night.
Today was another lazy type day, though at least we walked the pup. Tonight I watched the next Who ray eps, which was Pyramids Of Mars. This is an odd one to post thoughts about cause I did watch it fairly recently, cause they put it out as a Tale Of The Tardis when Sutekh was bought back.
It is a pretty good ep and I really like the Egyptian vibes. It’s a shame there’s not been more Egyptian type stuff in Who. It’s also so creepy in places, especially when the controlled Professor Scarman encounters his brother. At the same time it’s funny, the meme scene of Sarah Jane and the Doctor turning and walking out on seeing a mummy in the last part is so funny, as is the poacher who gets crushed by two mummies pressing themselves against him. That wouldn’t be as funny if the mummies chests weren’t so… ample. (The tardis wiki pic doesn’t do them justice)
Also it’s incredible that Sutekh is sold just by a vocal performance, since he’s just paralysed the whole time. The fact hat he still comes off as threatening is a credit to his actor. And speaking of actors Sarah Jane gives a lot of heart and we actually get an answer to a question often unasked: why doesn’t the doctor just leave when something bad happens? (Plus who knew she was such a good shot??)
Tomorrow I’ll go through the special features of the disc, but also there’s a bunch of other stuff. I wanna watch a film (either Fantastic Four First Steps or Glass Onion), then DND and I wanna do some iconning and putting music on the pod thing. (Plus I wanna poke my fic brain)
And I wanna listen to the next Night Vale and Redacted eps (the later being a new podcast about an X-Files type unit so I’m already sold on the concept). But damn I really have rambled, oops.
When I got back I watched the Pokopia thing I missed and ahh it looks so good! It really feels like it’s a Pokémon version of animal crossing, though it lets you have way more Pokémon than you could ac villagers. It feels there’s more to it than just a life sim though, there is a mystery aspect teased and I’m so curious. I really am so hyped for it.
(And speaking games I’ve still not sorted Hyrule Warriors. I was thinking of getting it when my money went in but I’ve still not. I think it’s partly cause I wanna finish Pokémon ZA first, I don’t want it to fall by the wayside like silksong and hades II. But also I know sales are coming and mums annoying friend so…)
In the night there was Taskmaster which was fun. It was the final and everyone wore pirate outfits and honestly? They all looked incredible in them. This was a pretty fun group too! Instead of just teasing one thing the post show trailer shown the new year treat and next champion of champions which was a surprise. I guess the latter is coming pretty soon.
Yesterday ended up being lazy day which I had expected cause of deliveries but we also got hit by the storm so it was raining and windy all day, to the point we didn’t even walk Naryu. Instead we just bundled up, finished Murder Before Evansong, which was pretty good, than children in need, which was eh and Sister Boniface which was good too if a tad sad.
Of the deliveries one was fine one wasn’t. The first was the 5 Seconds Of Summer order which was meant to be a picture vinyl and cd. However when I opened the package there was the vinyl but no sign of the cd. I’ve contacted support so we’ll see what happens. I did order the member cds cause the bundle came back, with a signed card (damnit Ashton and Luke signing on themselves so their signatures aren’t clear😭) so not having the regular one isn’t a big loss but still… (thoughts on the album in another post when I’ve listened more).
The other package was fine. It had the new Lego Star Wras advent calendar cause it had £14 off (and it’s cool, it’s got a bunch of droids!) and a buildable pokedex which I didn’t know was a thing till I saw it in an email. It looks so cool though, it’s pretty much lifesize and even has a light! The screen is also a set of plates with lenticular images so it can shown one of 5 pokemon (the kanto OG starters, Pikachu and Eevee) so it is pretty cool! It also has a stand which can hold the plates but it doesn’t seem to be as secure as it could be.
In the night I watched the IT blu ray that I got last week and it was pretty wild. Like all I knew about it was the sewer drain scene from the start and I didn’t expect it to be as brutal as it was. But yeah thewhole thing was wild I so intrigued by the lore stuff and to see some in welcome to Derry (but having that fire for the film backstory is such a bad choice) and I’m super curious to see chapter 2, hopefully soon.
The cex in town does have it listed in stock so I’ll swing by when I pick up my jacket (they’re pretty much right next to each other) so hopefully it’ll be there. The plan for that trip has also been changed too. The cinema added a morning showing for Keeper so I’ll see it then, which is better than seeing it at 5:40 like I was gonna cause it means I’ll be back before night.
Today was another lazy type day, though at least we walked the pup. Tonight I watched the next Who ray eps, which was Pyramids Of Mars. This is an odd one to post thoughts about cause I did watch it fairly recently, cause they put it out as a Tale Of The Tardis when Sutekh was bought back.
It is a pretty good ep and I really like the Egyptian vibes. It’s a shame there’s not been more Egyptian type stuff in Who. It’s also so creepy in places, especially when the controlled Professor Scarman encounters his brother. At the same time it’s funny, the meme scene of Sarah Jane and the Doctor turning and walking out on seeing a mummy in the last part is so funny, as is the poacher who gets crushed by two mummies pressing themselves against him. That wouldn’t be as funny if the mummies chests weren’t so… ample. (The tardis wiki pic doesn’t do them justice)
Also it’s incredible that Sutekh is sold just by a vocal performance, since he’s just paralysed the whole time. The fact hat he still comes off as threatening is a credit to his actor. And speaking of actors Sarah Jane gives a lot of heart and we actually get an answer to a question often unasked: why doesn’t the doctor just leave when something bad happens? (Plus who knew she was such a good shot??)
Tomorrow I’ll go through the special features of the disc, but also there’s a bunch of other stuff. I wanna watch a film (either Fantastic Four First Steps or Glass Onion), then DND and I wanna do some iconning and putting music on the pod thing. (Plus I wanna poke my fic brain)
And I wanna listen to the next Night Vale and Redacted eps (the later being a new podcast about an X-Files type unit so I’m already sold on the concept). But damn I really have rambled, oops.
Daily Check In.
Nov. 15th, 2025 06:00 pmadafrog posting in fandom_checkinThis is your check-in post for today. The poll will be open from midnight Universal or Zulu Time (8pm Eastern Time) on Saturday to midnight on Sunday (8pm Eastern Time).
Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
Poll #33838 Daily poll
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 16
How are you doing?
I am okay
9 (60.0%)
I am not okay, but don't need help right now
6 (40.0%)
I could use some help.
0 (0.0%)
How many other humans are you living with?
I am living single
4 (25.0%)
One other person
9 (56.2%)
More than one other person
3 (18.8%)
Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
(no subject)
Nov. 15th, 2025 03:54 pmauthor_by_night posting in fictional_fans Ao3's Sweet Sixteen is today! It was launched November 15th, 2009.
Were you an early adopter, or did it take you a while to start posting? Were you writing fanfic elsewhere at the time, or were you not into fic yet? How has your writing changed since the first fic you posted? Do you even use Ao3 now, or do you post somewhere else?
This post is not sponsored by Ao3. I'm just a dork.
[ SECRET POST #6889 ]
Nov. 15th, 2025 03:42 pmcase posting in fandomsecrets⌈ Secret Post #6889 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
01.
[Radiolight]
( More! )
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 34 secrets from Secret Submission Post #984.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
[ SECRET SUBMISSIONS POST #985 ]
Nov. 15th, 2025 03:21 pmcase posting in fandomsecrets[ SECRET SUBMISSIONS POST #985 ]
The first secret from this batch will be posted on November 22nd.
The first secret from this batch will be posted on November 22nd.
| RULES: 1. One secret link per comment. 2. 750x750 px or smaller. 3. Link directly to the image. More details on how to send a secret in! Optional: If you would like your secret's fandom to be noted in the main post along with the secret itself, please put it in the comment along with your secret. If your secret makes the fandom obvious, there's no need to do this. If your fandom is obscure, you should probably tell me what it is. Optional #2: If you would like WARNINGS (such as spoilers or common triggers -- list of some common ones here) to be noted in the main post before the secret itself, please put it in the comment along with your secret. Optional #3: If you would like a transcript to be posted along with your secret, put it along with the link in the comment! |
My latest Guardian fanworks
Nov. 15th, 2025 08:39 pmfacethestrange posting in sid_guardianAll nsfw fics this time, 3x Weilan, 1x Lanzun.
The Things We Could Be (1033 words) by facethestrange
Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian - priest
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Shen Wei/Zhao Yunlan
Characters: Shen Wei (Guardian), Zhao Yunlan
Additional Tags: Mpreg | Male Pregnancy, or at least an earnest attempt at one, Breeding Kink, Anal Sex, Coming Inside Someone, Facials, Come Eating, Wall Sex, Mild Biting, Tenderness, Crying During Sex, Soft, Porn with Feelings, Post-Canon, no nut kinkvember 2025, Breedvember 2025, Kinktober 2025
Summary: "Remember when you said that my parents would want me to give them grandchildren?"
This may not be the weirdest thing Zhao Yunlan has ever said mid-blowjob, but it's definitely in the top five.
Drenched (930 words) by facethestrange
Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Shen Wei/Zhao Yunlan
Characters: Shen Wei (Guardian), Zhao Yunlan
Additional Tags: Plot What Plot/Porn Without Plot, Sex in a Car, Wet & Messy, Rain Sex, Nipple Play, Nipple Licking, Hand Jobs, Come Marking, Come Eating, Clothed Sex, Thirsty Zhao Yunlan, Established Relationship, no nut kinkvember 2025, Kinktober 2025
Summary: Shen Wei frantically tints the windows with dark energy before he lets himself melt into the sensation. His shirt is dripping wet, and the drag of fabric across his sensitive skin, over and over again in small circles, makes him gasp into Zhao Yunlan's mouth.
Breakfast (1006 words) by facethestrange
Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Shen Wei/Zhao Yunlan
Characters: Shen Wei (Guardian), Zhao Yunlan
Additional Tags: Plot What Plot/Porn Without Plot, Facial Hair Kink, Oral Sex, Come Marking, Come Eating, Come In Beard, Wet & Messy, Facials, Licking, Hand Jobs, Kitchen Sex, Clothed Sex, milk is involved at first but it's not food sex per se, Finger Sucking, Established Relationship, Domestic, no nut kinkvember 2025, Kinktober 2025
Summary: Zhao Yunlan grins, knowing exactly where his mind went, and seizes the opportunity. He starts to wipe the milk with the side of his thumb, never breaking eye contact with Shen Wei as he brings it to his mouth.
push your raging calmness (252 words) by facethestrange
Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
Rating: Mature
Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings
Relationships: Ye Zun/Zhao Yunlan
Characters: Ye Zun (Guardian), Zhao Yunlan
Additional Tags: Blood and Violence, Torture, Non-Consensual Kissing, Bloody Kisses, Non-Consensual Blood Drinking, Unconscious Zhao Yunlan, POV Ye Zun (Guardian), Missing Scene, Episode 39 (Guardian), Rape/Non-con Elements, Dead Dove: Do Not Eat
Summary: Ye Zun doesn't want to break Gege's toy. Not completely.
The Things We Could Be (1033 words) by facethestrange
Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian - priest
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Shen Wei/Zhao Yunlan
Characters: Shen Wei (Guardian), Zhao Yunlan
Additional Tags: Mpreg | Male Pregnancy, or at least an earnest attempt at one, Breeding Kink, Anal Sex, Coming Inside Someone, Facials, Come Eating, Wall Sex, Mild Biting, Tenderness, Crying During Sex, Soft, Porn with Feelings, Post-Canon, no nut kinkvember 2025, Breedvember 2025, Kinktober 2025
Summary: "Remember when you said that my parents would want me to give them grandchildren?"
This may not be the weirdest thing Zhao Yunlan has ever said mid-blowjob, but it's definitely in the top five.
Drenched (930 words) by facethestrange
Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Shen Wei/Zhao Yunlan
Characters: Shen Wei (Guardian), Zhao Yunlan
Additional Tags: Plot What Plot/Porn Without Plot, Sex in a Car, Wet & Messy, Rain Sex, Nipple Play, Nipple Licking, Hand Jobs, Come Marking, Come Eating, Clothed Sex, Thirsty Zhao Yunlan, Established Relationship, no nut kinkvember 2025, Kinktober 2025
Summary: Shen Wei frantically tints the windows with dark energy before he lets himself melt into the sensation. His shirt is dripping wet, and the drag of fabric across his sensitive skin, over and over again in small circles, makes him gasp into Zhao Yunlan's mouth.
Breakfast (1006 words) by facethestrange
Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Shen Wei/Zhao Yunlan
Characters: Shen Wei (Guardian), Zhao Yunlan
Additional Tags: Plot What Plot/Porn Without Plot, Facial Hair Kink, Oral Sex, Come Marking, Come Eating, Come In Beard, Wet & Messy, Facials, Licking, Hand Jobs, Kitchen Sex, Clothed Sex, milk is involved at first but it's not food sex per se, Finger Sucking, Established Relationship, Domestic, no nut kinkvember 2025, Kinktober 2025
Summary: Zhao Yunlan grins, knowing exactly where his mind went, and seizes the opportunity. He starts to wipe the milk with the side of his thumb, never breaking eye contact with Shen Wei as he brings it to his mouth.
push your raging calmness (252 words) by facethestrange
Fandom: 镇魂 | Guardian (TV 2018)
Rating: Mature
Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings
Relationships: Ye Zun/Zhao Yunlan
Characters: Ye Zun (Guardian), Zhao Yunlan
Additional Tags: Blood and Violence, Torture, Non-Consensual Kissing, Bloody Kisses, Non-Consensual Blood Drinking, Unconscious Zhao Yunlan, POV Ye Zun (Guardian), Missing Scene, Episode 39 (Guardian), Rape/Non-con Elements, Dead Dove: Do Not Eat
Summary: Ye Zun doesn't want to break Gege's toy. Not completely.
A few cool things
Nov. 15th, 2025 04:27 pmoursinThe Spanish government has granted citizenship to 170 descendants of volunteers in the International Brigades in recognition of their fight against fascism.
Go them!
The daughter of a Manchester man who volunteered to fight in the Spanish Civil War has reflected on his "incredible feat of solidarity" as her family is set to become Spanish citizens.
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‘We don’t even know all of what we have.’ Howard fights to preserve Black newspapers.
“We don’t even know all of what we have,” Mr. Nightingale marvels.
The basement is a trove of artifacts, including old editions of Black-owned newspapers that tell the life of Black Americans during the 19th and 20th centuries. Articles cover slavery, lynchings, Jim Crow, and the Civil Rights era. The archive project, which is part of the university’s Moorland-Spingarn Research Center, is bringing to life the faces of yesterday by merging them with the digital world of today. This way, the hope is, they won’t be lost ever again.
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Disentangling obscured women: One Artist – ‘Mary Katherine Constance Lloyd’ – Dismembered To Create Two: or The Importance Of Biography:
Googling ‘Mary Katherine Constance Lloyd’ led me to the ArtUK page for ‘Mary Katharine [sic] Constance Lloyd’, which included birth and death dates and a short biography[i]. It was then only the work of a moment to discover on Ancestry that the woman with the given dates was not a Mary Katherine Constance Lloyd but a Katharine Constance Lloyd. How peculiar, I thought, and looked again at the ArtUK page. It then seemed obvious that the paintings displayed were unlikely to all be by the same hand. Four, including the one described by Birrell in the chapter on ‘Mary’, might be classed as ‘impressionist’, while the others were formal portraits of worthy 20th-century gentlemen, attired in various robes of office.
A little more online research established that there was, indeed, another artist with a similar name, Mary Constance Lloyd, and that a succession of art reference works had carelessly blended their two lives together – to create ’Mary Katharine Constance Lloyd’. I suppose it is a measure of how little importance is attached to the lives of such women artists that in 50 years no author had bothered to research either subject ab initio – but, when compiling a new biographical dictionary or making a footnote reference, had merely copied the – incorrect – information.
Don't think I shall be rushing to read that book on women artists and still life cited in the opening of the post!
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We are always up for some toad-related phenomena around here: Newly identified species of Tanzanian tree toad leapfrog the tadpole stage and give birth to toadlets. How about that.
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Nov. 15th, 2025 10:48 amskygiantsI am extremely belated in actually posting about Taiwan Travelogue -- I know that I read it before June, because in June was when I was talking about it with recognito and he said 'oh I think it's an Utena riff' and I was like ?? ?!?! !!!! aj;dlkfjs;l of course it's an Utena riff. (recognito's post about it here.)
Which is of course a very unfair way to begin this post because it's many other things besides an Utena riff- primarily of course a story about colonization and power relations, as told through gender and appetite. Taiwan Travelogue is a book that presents itself as a translation from the Japanese into Taiwanese -- which I of course then read translated into English, another layering into the text -- of a Japanese writer's journal of her time in Taiwan, 1938-9. She's there to promote her book, not to promote the project of Japanese Imperial Expansion, of which she certainly does not really approve! and which she is not going to propagandize, except in the ways that she can't help but propagandize it! and she wants to experience the real Taiwan, most notably Real Taiwanese Food. Aoyama's major passion in life is eating, she is a tall young woman with a huge appetite, and the tour guide experiences that have been prepared for her are not sufficient to her desires.
Enter Ong: Aoyama's new entry point into Taiwan, a quiet young woman from a mysterious background who, unlike her other assigned translator, is willing to not only take Aoyama off the beaten path to Unapproved Culinary Experiences but also to provide additional culinary experiences at home in her lodgings. Whatever Aoyama hears about, she wants to eat. One way or another, Ong makes it happen. Ong, it turns out, is the only person Aoyama's ever met who can eat as much as Aoyama can; Aoyama feels a deep connection to her, is desperate for some sense of genuine reciprocal emotion, but no matter what she tries, moving from their employer/employee dynamic into something genuine seems impossible. From Aoyama's point of view, she's always reaching out, and Ong is always slipping away, putting up a barrier. As Ong sees it -- well, whatever she's trying to tell Aoyama, Aoyama does not understand.
The metaphor of colonialism as played out through the inherent power imbalances of a failed romance is not a new theme and plays out more or less as expected here, though it's relevant that this is a book about A Lesbian: one of the things that the text wants to explore I think is how being, in your own mind, in the position of an underdog and an outsider makes it harder for you to see the ways and situations in which you are neither of those things. But really what I found most striking about the book is not the central relationship at all, but the food. The book has a lot of dishes in it, and every dish has a context and a history: the ingredients come from somewhere, the way it's made has a certain history to it, the way it's made in one location differs from the way it's made in a different location, and Ong always takes care to explain why. The portrait of the impact that colonization by Japan has had on Taiwan is largely drawn through detailed descriptions of changing recipes. The book made me very aware of how hungry I am for material culture in my fiction! ... and also it just made me normal hungry.
recognito and he said 'oh I think it's an Utena riff' and I was like ?? ?!?! !!!! aj;dlkfjs;l of course it's an Utena riff. (recognito's post about it here.) Which is of course a very unfair way to begin this post because it's many other things besides an Utena riff- primarily of course a story about colonization and power relations, as told through gender and appetite. Taiwan Travelogue is a book that presents itself as a translation from the Japanese into Taiwanese -- which I of course then read translated into English, another layering into the text -- of a Japanese writer's journal of her time in Taiwan, 1938-9. She's there to promote her book, not to promote the project of Japanese Imperial Expansion, of which she certainly does not really approve! and which she is not going to propagandize, except in the ways that she can't help but propagandize it! and she wants to experience the real Taiwan, most notably Real Taiwanese Food. Aoyama's major passion in life is eating, she is a tall young woman with a huge appetite, and the tour guide experiences that have been prepared for her are not sufficient to her desires.
Enter Ong: Aoyama's new entry point into Taiwan, a quiet young woman from a mysterious background who, unlike her other assigned translator, is willing to not only take Aoyama off the beaten path to Unapproved Culinary Experiences but also to provide additional culinary experiences at home in her lodgings. Whatever Aoyama hears about, she wants to eat. One way or another, Ong makes it happen. Ong, it turns out, is the only person Aoyama's ever met who can eat as much as Aoyama can; Aoyama feels a deep connection to her, is desperate for some sense of genuine reciprocal emotion, but no matter what she tries, moving from their employer/employee dynamic into something genuine seems impossible. From Aoyama's point of view, she's always reaching out, and Ong is always slipping away, putting up a barrier. As Ong sees it -- well, whatever she's trying to tell Aoyama, Aoyama does not understand.
The metaphor of colonialism as played out through the inherent power imbalances of a failed romance is not a new theme and plays out more or less as expected here, though it's relevant that this is a book about A Lesbian: one of the things that the text wants to explore I think is how being, in your own mind, in the position of an underdog and an outsider makes it harder for you to see the ways and situations in which you are neither of those things. But really what I found most striking about the book is not the central relationship at all, but the food. The book has a lot of dishes in it, and every dish has a context and a history: the ingredients come from somewhere, the way it's made has a certain history to it, the way it's made in one location differs from the way it's made in a different location, and Ong always takes care to explain why. The portrait of the impact that colonization by Japan has had on Taiwan is largely drawn through detailed descriptions of changing recipes. The book made me very aware of how hungry I am for material culture in my fiction! ... and also it just made me normal hungry.
Interesting Links for 15-11-2025
Nov. 15th, 2025 12:00 pmandrewducker- 1. I am fascinated by how much language cats and dogs can have when you give them the opportunity
- (tags:communication cats dogs )
- 2. if I was designing a kid's toy then I wouldn't connect it to an AI without making sure it wouldn't teach them about matches, knives and sexual kinks
- (tags:ai toys children wtf )
- 3. Do not compare yourself to people you see online. They quite possibly don't look like that
- (tags:ai video bodies society )
- 4. France drops demand for UK to pay up front for Brexit reset talks on cheaper food
- (tags:uk europe food trade france )
- 5. Spiral-Obsessed AI 'Cult' Spreads Mystical Delusions Through Chatbots
- (tags:ai belief patterns delusion )
Just One Thing (15 November 2025)
Nov. 15th, 2025 10:03 amnanila posting in awesomeersIt's challenge time!
Comment with Just One Thing you've accomplished in the last 24 hours or so. It doesn't have to be a hard thing, or even a thing that you think is particularly awesome. Just a thing that you did.
Feel free to share more than one thing if you're feeling particularly accomplished! Extra credit: find someone in the comments and give them props for what they achieved!
Nothing is too big, too small, too strange or too cryptic. And in case you'd rather do this in private, anonymous comments are screened. I will only unscreen if you ask me to.
Go!
Comment with Just One Thing you've accomplished in the last 24 hours or so. It doesn't have to be a hard thing, or even a thing that you think is particularly awesome. Just a thing that you did.
Feel free to share more than one thing if you're feeling particularly accomplished! Extra credit: find someone in the comments and give them props for what they achieved!
Nothing is too big, too small, too strange or too cryptic. And in case you'd rather do this in private, anonymous comments are screened. I will only unscreen if you ask me to.
Go!
Ask a Manager: let’s hear from people who didn’t find their career paths until after 40
Nov. 15th, 2025 03:20 am
[Challenge #468: Endless] The Legend of Zelda: 'Bathed in Flames'
Nov. 14th, 2025 10:35 pmbut_can_i_be_trusted posting in 100wordsTitle: 'Bathed in Flames'
Fandom: The Legend of Zelda (Spoilers for 'Skyward Sword')
Rating: PG (Warnings for vaguely disturbing concepts)
Notes: Crossposted todrabble_zone and anythingdrabble
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Fandom: The Legend of Zelda (Spoilers for 'Skyward Sword')
Rating: PG (Warnings for vaguely disturbing concepts)
Notes: Crossposted to
drabble_zone and anythingdrabble( Bathed in Flames )
Fortune's Wheel (50 Sentences about Giovanni)
Nov. 14th, 2025 09:51 pmbut_can_i_be_trusted posting in 1characterCharacter: Giovanni
Fandom: Pokémon [Pokémon FireRed/LeafGreen]
Theme set: Epsilon
Rating: G
Warnings: None
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Fandom: Pokémon [Pokémon FireRed/LeafGreen]
Theme set: Epsilon
Rating: G
Warnings: None
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Outgunned Math Question
Nov. 14th, 2025 08:30 pmjames_davis_nicollOutgunned's task resolution system involves rolling six-sided dice and looking for sets.
Some explanation behind a cut.
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Some explanation behind a cut.
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Daily Check In.
Nov. 14th, 2025 06:24 pmadafrog posting in fandom_checkinThis is your check-in post for today. The poll will be open from midnight Universal or Zulu Time (8pm Eastern Time) on Friday to midnight on Saturday (8pm Eastern Time).
Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
Poll #33837 Daily poll
This poll is closed.
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 19
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 19
How are you doing?
I am okay
11 (57.9%)
I am not okay, but don't need help right now
8 (42.1%)
I could use some help.
0 (0.0%)
How many other humans are you living with?
I am living single
8 (42.1%)
One other person
7 (36.8%)
More than one other person
4 (21.1%)
Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
[ SECRET POST #6888 ]
Nov. 14th, 2025 05:48 pmcase posting in fandomsecrets⌈ Secret Post #6888 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[NYTimes Connections & Only Connect]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #983.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
boost: Adam Engst Learns Seven Agentic Web Browsers Can't Count
Nov. 14th, 2025 03:57 pmjesse_the_kfrom someone who's a realist-for-now yet also wants to believe.
Adam Engst on Can Agentic Web Browsers Count?
tl;dr No, given a readily available data set on a webpage, they can't.
The sweetest and scariest part was his sympathy for Copilot's very anxious inner monologue as it tried to come up with answers while working to a deadline that nobody had created.
When it comes to system prompts, the anxious tone of Copilot’s internal responses suggests a “ship now, apologize later, if you’re caught” system prompt that, if reflected in a real-world workplace, would be problematic. Obviously, AIs don’t have feelings that can be hurt and won’t complain to HR, but such a culture tends to encourage people to cut corners and make poor decisions that compromise quality and customer service. If Copilot is any indication, the same is true for AIs.
Um what
Nov. 14th, 2025 01:36 pmysobel posting in agonyauntDear Miss Manners: What is the polite way to eat large sushi rolls? Sometimes they’re too big to comfortably eat whole without gagging!
Dissect them.
Miss Manners does not usually condone deconstructing food in public, but these are desperate times. Use your chopsticks to pull out the insides and eat them separately. Then either squish the remaining rice and seaweed together and eat it in two bites or use the side of the chopstick to cut it in half.
Perhaps the sight of their beautiful creations being desecrated will inspire the chefs to make more manageable bites. Or at least have them wonder why everyone is suddenly ordering them as takeout instead.
Dissect them.
Miss Manners does not usually condone deconstructing food in public, but these are desperate times. Use your chopsticks to pull out the insides and eat them separately. Then either squish the remaining rice and seaweed together and eat it in two bites or use the side of the chopstick to cut it in half.
Perhaps the sight of their beautiful creations being desecrated will inspire the chefs to make more manageable bites. Or at least have them wonder why everyone is suddenly ordering them as takeout instead.
Where Have I Been? What Have I Been Doing?
Nov. 14th, 2025 01:39 pmlydamorehouse One really fun thing that I did lately is finally listen to/read The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
This came about because my son has heard me go on and on since I read Frankenstein for the first time earlier this year about how GAY Victor Frankenstein was for his most sincere friend Henry Clevral. Being Mason, he said, "Oh, huh. Have you ever read Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? I recommend it," without, of course, spoiling the fact that it's pretty much common knowledge the Robert Louis Stevenson had based Jekyll and Hyde on his real life gay friends.
If you doubt me, check out the Wikipediea entry's "inspiration and writing" section: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strange_Case_of_Dr_Jekyll_and_Mr_Hyde#Inspiration_and_writing Stevenson apparently literally named Jykell after a reverand who was very likely gay and several of his known gay associates, specifically John Addington Symonds. Symonds apparently read Jekyll and Hyde and said (and I paraphrase), "I am in this book and I don't like it."
Anyway, The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde is short and well worth the read.
Having thoroughly enjoyed that experience, I have been pondering if there are other classics that I've ignored over the years due to the trauma of having been an English major. (When one is forced to read a lot of classic leterature, one grows weary of its ponderousness.) My friendnaomikritzer has talked me into trying out Anne of Green Gables. I'm not sure how well this one will stick because it is in no way genre or genre adjacent like Frankenstein and The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. But, we'll see. I found someone on Spotify who did a lovely podcast of Anne of Green Gables with multiple voice actors playing the various roles, so it could generally just be a fun way to experience the book.
I know it's not Wednesday, but what are you reading? Anything fun? Anything weird? Anything AWFUL?
This came about because my son has heard me go on and on since I read Frankenstein for the first time earlier this year about how GAY Victor Frankenstein was for his most sincere friend Henry Clevral. Being Mason, he said, "Oh, huh. Have you ever read Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? I recommend it," without, of course, spoiling the fact that it's pretty much common knowledge the Robert Louis Stevenson had based Jekyll and Hyde on his real life gay friends.
If you doubt me, check out the Wikipediea entry's "inspiration and writing" section: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strange_Case_of_Dr_Jekyll_and_Mr_Hyde#Inspiration_and_writing Stevenson apparently literally named Jykell after a reverand who was very likely gay and several of his known gay associates, specifically John Addington Symonds. Symonds apparently read Jekyll and Hyde and said (and I paraphrase), "I am in this book and I don't like it."
Anyway, The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde is short and well worth the read.
Having thoroughly enjoyed that experience, I have been pondering if there are other classics that I've ignored over the years due to the trauma of having been an English major. (When one is forced to read a lot of classic leterature, one grows weary of its ponderousness.) My friend
naomikritzer has talked me into trying out Anne of Green Gables. I'm not sure how well this one will stick because it is in no way genre or genre adjacent like Frankenstein and The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. But, we'll see. I found someone on Spotify who did a lovely podcast of Anne of Green Gables with multiple voice actors playing the various roles, so it could generally just be a fun way to experience the book. I know it's not Wednesday, but what are you reading? Anything fun? Anything weird? Anything AWFUL?
Huge Channels or No Channels: You Pick
Nov. 14th, 2025 02:18 pmin_the_pipeline_feedI wanted to mention a couple of recent papers about a field that’s had a lot of interest over the last decade: engineered two-dimensional materials. These things are (at their theoretical best) only one layer of atoms or molecules thick, and can have a great many exotic and useful properties. Some of those are still a bit more theoretical than actual, but they range from optical and electronic behavior all the way to sheer physical processes like molecule-scale filtration. For an example of this, albeit not with a true single-molecular-layer filter, see here. Another example which is in use around the world is the “reverse osmosis” technology for desalination plants, where water can be pushed through the membranes but salty ions cannot.
I was writing last month about the Nobel for MOFs, metal-organic frameworks, and there’s a two-dimensional aspect to those, too. Related are “covalent organic frameworks”, which are made up, as the name implies, of nothing but covalently linked groups without the metal-ion-coordination in MOFs. You can think of them as very specialized and very orderly 2D and 3D polymers. Here’s a paper that looks closely at some of the 2D ones to see what happens when they’re exposed to water.
They’re only looking at three different ones with very similar structures. They all form large hexagonal pores (about 3 nm across), but the three have either no functional groups therein, phenols, or methoxys (all in the same positions. but they find that the capillary forces of the bulk water are strong enough to distort the structures greatly. That is, the strong hydrogen-bonding network of the water molecules can pull the frameworks into new arrangements (or just pull them apart!)
Two of the three (the unsubstituted and the OH) basically just collapse irreversibly under the strain, actually. The methoxy-decorated one survives (and can go around for more desorption/absorption cycles) but its crystalline form is altered a bit along the way, so it is still feeling the strain. Calculations suggest that this one actually produces less “sorption pressure” as the water fills its cavities - it’s not that the channels themselves are so much more robust. As the authors put it, “capillary forces and their effects should not be ignored when using 2D COFs in liquid environments”, and they now have the data to prove it.
At the other end of the scale is the material described in this paper. The authors have prepared a 2D polyamide material which is not quite a full-fledged covalent organic framework (it doesn’t have long-range order, from its powder X-ray spectrum). But what it is, is impermeable. Its layers seem to pack in a staggered arrangement with almost no free volume, so instead of having various sized-channels and cavities like most MOFs and COFs, it has so such gaps at all. That makes the permeability of this material extraordinarily low for both solvents and gases - in fact, around ten thousand times lower than the current record holders (!) The material can be formed as thin films with dozens or even hundred of such molecular layers, and the chances of anything getting through are very low indeed.
This goes not only for relatively bulky stuff like (say) sulfur hexafluoride, but also for methane. And for oxygen and nitrogen. And for argon, and even for helium. For hydrogen, its permeability is roughly that of a pristine graphene layer. This obviously can be a very useful material, since there are many applications where you’d want (for example) an oxygen-impermeable barrier that doesn’t degrade. The authors demonstrate this by coating an oxygen- and water-sensitive perovskite sample with just 60nm of this material, and they show that it dramatically extends its lifetime under ambient conditions.
So there you have two very different areas of modern materials science: things with huge channels (that need to be taken care of!) and others with no channels whatsoever! Plenty of uses are waiting for these and for all sorts of materials in between. . .
MCC Mash Up
Nov. 14th, 2025 08:19 pmschneefink posting in hermitcraftThis year I watched less MCC than in previous years, but I'm still a fan. I didn't post here about Hermits in MCC, but I posted some notes on my journal. I especially enjoyed MCC Copper Crown live at Twitchcon San Diego! Pink Parrots was an amazing PoV, such a great team.
This Saturday, tomorrow, is another MCC, MCC Mash Up, once again with several Hermits:
- Grian on the Red Rabbits, with Cambam, Jojosolos, and Michela Darkeyebrowss
- Rendog and Xisuma on the Lime Llamas, with Shane Firebreathman and MythicalSausage
- Cubfan135 on the Green Geckos, with Legundo, Philza, and Seapeekay
- Joel Smallishbeans on the Cyan Coyotes, with KatherineElizabeth, Jimmy Solidarity, and Oli Orionsound
- Scar on the Blue Bats with Aimsey, Ghostiefruit, and Martyn IntheLittleWood
This has some of my favorite games - most of them apart from Railroad Rush actually - so I'm sure it'll be a good time. And build challenges again!, those were fun last time. I probably won't be able to catch it live unfortunately (though at least that saves me the trouble of deciding which PoV to watch live, silver lining.)
Are you planning to watch/have you watched MCC this year? Any favorite events/teams/games?
This Saturday, tomorrow, is another MCC, MCC Mash Up, once again with several Hermits:
- Grian on the Red Rabbits, with Cambam, Jojosolos, and Michela Darkeyebrowss
- Rendog and Xisuma on the Lime Llamas, with Shane Firebreathman and MythicalSausage
- Cubfan135 on the Green Geckos, with Legundo, Philza, and Seapeekay
- Joel Smallishbeans on the Cyan Coyotes, with KatherineElizabeth, Jimmy Solidarity, and Oli Orionsound
- Scar on the Blue Bats with Aimsey, Ghostiefruit, and Martyn IntheLittleWood
This has some of my favorite games - most of them apart from Railroad Rush actually - so I'm sure it'll be a good time. And build challenges again!, those were fun last time. I probably won't be able to catch it live unfortunately (though at least that saves me the trouble of deciding which PoV to watch live, silver lining.)
Are you planning to watch/have you watched MCC this year? Any favorite events/teams/games?
Thinking women
Nov. 14th, 2025 02:51 pmoursinI don't think we actually have to claim she invented science fiction, because to the best of my recollection and without going and looking it up, various people in the C17th were doing similar things. Also, honestly, why can we not claim women among the Great Eccentrics of History? What we like about Margaret Cavendish is that she appears to have heartily embraced this identity rather than having it plonked upon her by a judgemental world: The Duchess Who Invented Science Fiction.
Though I am slightly muttering under my breath about the women of the time who were also Doing Science and Being Intellectual in a rather less flamboyant fashion e.g. Lady Ranelagh, and indeed women in the Evelyn circle....
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Quiet persistence and a lucky combination of first husband dying after a few years of marriage and sympathetic second husband (see also Mrs Delany): Mary Somerville – the first scientist - she taught Ada Lovelace, plus she lived to be 92. (You know, I am sorry for those women in science who died tragically young, but we hear a lot less about the ones like Dorothy Hodgkin who had a long and spectacularly effective career in crystallography while suffering from rheumatoid arthritis and actually GOT THE NOBEL. I also mark her up for persistence in humanitarian concerns.)
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Okay, Amy Levy did die, by her own hand, distressingly young: but her personal archive, up till now in private hands, has now been acquired by the University of Cambridge Library: The archive of enigmatic 19th-century writer Amy Levy has a new home at Cambridge University Library
Harriette continues to be the worst
Nov. 14th, 2025 09:28 amconuly posting in agonyauntDEAR HARRIETTE: A friend and I were watching a popular TV series together. The show is based on high schoolers who struggle with substance use disorder, mental health, anger management, sexual exploitation and more. We both were making comments regarding our shock throughout the episodes, but at some point, my friend looked over to me and said he feels sorry for my future children. I was wounded. That is such a strong statement.
I tried to unpack with him what he had said, but I didn't get far. He shared that he thought my expectations were too aggressive and that no kid will be able to thrive around me. I think of parenting as a balance between structure and vulnerability, and I've always hoped I will be an honest and understanding mom. Neither of us has children, by the way.
I want my friend to know his harsh critiques impacted me and that he should be more mindful with his opinions in the future. Is it even worth revisiting this conversation? -- Bad Mom
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I tried to unpack with him what he had said, but I didn't get far. He shared that he thought my expectations were too aggressive and that no kid will be able to thrive around me. I think of parenting as a balance between structure and vulnerability, and I've always hoped I will be an honest and understanding mom. Neither of us has children, by the way.
I want my friend to know his harsh critiques impacted me and that he should be more mindful with his opinions in the future. Is it even worth revisiting this conversation? -- Bad Mom
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The House of Illusionists: and Other Stories by Vanessa Fogg
Nov. 14th, 2025 08:59 amjames_davis_nicoll
A speculative fiction collection from Vanessa Fogg.
The House of Illusionists: and Other Stories by Vanessa Fogg
One ping only
Nov. 14th, 2025 02:06 pmandrewduckerI just spent an hour playing "Captain Sonar"
Two teams, each of which are moving their submarin around a map, while trying to work out where their opponent is, keep the ship running, and charge their systems so that they can detect the other team and then torpedo them.
Good fun!
Two teams, each of which are moving their submarin around a map, while trying to work out where their opponent is, keep the ship running, and charge their systems so that they can detect the other team and then torpedo them.
Good fun!
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Nov. 14th, 2025 01:38 pmrenfys
finally begin
A Pepper/Natasha mix
- Hardest Of Heart :- Florence + The Machine
- Keep The Car Running :- Arcade Fire
- Let Me Down Gently :- La Roux
- Between Sheets :- Imogen Heap
- Underneath It All :- No Doubt
- The [Shipped] Gold Standard :- Fall Out Boy
- Munich :- Editors (or Corrine Bailey Rae cover)
- Only If For A Night :- Florence + The Machine
- Oil And Water :- Incubus
- Apply Some Pressure :- Maximo Park
- Finally Begin :- Cold War Kids
- Wait a Minute :- Sub-Radio
Listen on Spotify / Apple Music
Media Roundup, Accidental Advent Small Screen Edition
Nov. 14th, 2025 07:53 amkallowayIt's been a little while since the last one - some of this is because of the length of one of these.
He-Man and the Masters of the Universe (Complete Original Series) - 130 episodes + movies + documentaries. So this did in fact take awhile! But I really enjoyed it. I had somehow forgotten that He-Man is Science Fantasy and also how good the whole cast is. It also aged well. Wouldn't actually recommend binging it like I did, but I have no regrets. (I do own She-Ra but I need a breather before launching into it.)
Time Bokan Royal Revival - a Tatsunoko parody OVA that probably makes a little more sense with more Tatsunoko knowledge but I know enough to have enjoyed it. I know I've watched this before. I'll have to find it proper shelf space?
Eight Clouds Rising - I know I watched this years ago and was just sort of 'hmm' about it. It's an OVA based on a manga series and despite seeming like BL, isn't? I think I can let this one go.
Wild Zero - I feel like I watched over the summer but it never went on a shelf? If you know who Guitar Wolf is, um, this is the Guitar Wolf Zombie Movie. It's just kind of bonkers and has an amazing soundtrack. Like, it's just... Guitar Wolf Zombie Movie.
Utawarerumono - this was stupidly hyped back when it came out but I never osmosed more than 'guy with a mask' and couldn't have told you another thing about it. Anyway, I was not expecting what I got and it... was okay. A lot happened and it was a ride and became even more of a ride. Apparently Utawarerumono was originally an adult visual novel and, um, you can kinda tell. It can go, but I'm glad I finally saw it.
Dragon Half - dunno how this got in the pile. I should read the manga again too. The anime is hilarious though and kind of a nice palette cleanser.
Mobile Suit Gundam MS IGLOO - I think this ended up in the pile because Zudahs. I still like the Zeon sections; the Feddie bits just kind of feel extra.
So, 5/7 keepers. Not bad.
He-Man and the Masters of the Universe (Complete Original Series) - 130 episodes + movies + documentaries. So this did in fact take awhile! But I really enjoyed it. I had somehow forgotten that He-Man is Science Fantasy and also how good the whole cast is. It also aged well. Wouldn't actually recommend binging it like I did, but I have no regrets. (I do own She-Ra but I need a breather before launching into it.)
Time Bokan Royal Revival - a Tatsunoko parody OVA that probably makes a little more sense with more Tatsunoko knowledge but I know enough to have enjoyed it. I know I've watched this before. I'll have to find it proper shelf space?
Eight Clouds Rising - I know I watched this years ago and was just sort of 'hmm' about it. It's an OVA based on a manga series and despite seeming like BL, isn't? I think I can let this one go.
Wild Zero - I feel like I watched over the summer but it never went on a shelf? If you know who Guitar Wolf is, um, this is the Guitar Wolf Zombie Movie. It's just kind of bonkers and has an amazing soundtrack. Like, it's just... Guitar Wolf Zombie Movie.
Utawarerumono - this was stupidly hyped back when it came out but I never osmosed more than 'guy with a mask' and couldn't have told you another thing about it. Anyway, I was not expecting what I got and it... was okay. A lot happened and it was a ride and became even more of a ride. Apparently Utawarerumono was originally an adult visual novel and, um, you can kinda tell. It can go, but I'm glad I finally saw it.
Dragon Half - dunno how this got in the pile. I should read the manga again too. The anime is hilarious though and kind of a nice palette cleanser.
Mobile Suit Gundam MS IGLOO - I think this ended up in the pile because Zudahs. I still like the Zeon sections; the Feddie bits just kind of feel extra.
So, 5/7 keepers. Not bad.
Thanksgiving
Nov. 14th, 2025 05:02 amconuly posting in agonyaunt1. Dear Eric: For the last 45 years or so I’ve hosted Thanksgiving for my family. I’ve had as many as 25 people. My sister has two sons, and they’ve always stayed with me. Quite frankly, it’s now an issue. Only one son comes but he now has three sons of his own, ranging from 22 to 8. My sister also stays with me. They come on Wednesday and stay till Friday. It’s a lot considering all I have to do for the holiday.
I know if I say something about a hotel, they will be highly insulted.
My daughter also comes and stays, but that’s different. She’s one person and my daughter. Advice?
– Overwhelmed
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2. Dear Prudence,
My brother has good relationships with everybody but refuses to be part of Thanksgiving, Christmas, or large group events because he says that while he loves us individually, we’re a nightmare collectively. I get it and, frankly, I would love to do the same—my parents and wider family are lovely but bicker and squabble when they get together, particularly over politics, which gets ever uglier. But I also know that my family finds his attitude deeply hurtful. I’m stuck between wanting to opt out myself or trying to persuade him to change his mind because I can see how sad it makes my mother. My instinct is to stay out of it; we’re all adults. But I also feel a bit jealous and miffed. Is there a way forward?
—Stuck in the Middle
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3. Dear A.J.,
My husband’s brother, “George,” is a recovering alcoholic. He’s been sober for eight months. The thing is, Thanksgiving is coming up, and we’ve always served wine with dinner.
My husband thinks it would be completely inappropriate for us to do so this year because George is coming over, and he doesn’t want him to be “tempted.” I understand that George is going to be battling his alcoholism for the rest of his life, but at the same time, he can’t expect the world around him to be dry everywhere he goes and needs to be able to navigate settings where alcohol is served. This is turning into a sticking point between my husband and me. Is my husband right? Am I being thoughtless?
—Warring Over Wine
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I know if I say something about a hotel, they will be highly insulted.
My daughter also comes and stays, but that’s different. She’s one person and my daughter. Advice?
– Overwhelmed
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2. Dear Prudence,
My brother has good relationships with everybody but refuses to be part of Thanksgiving, Christmas, or large group events because he says that while he loves us individually, we’re a nightmare collectively. I get it and, frankly, I would love to do the same—my parents and wider family are lovely but bicker and squabble when they get together, particularly over politics, which gets ever uglier. But I also know that my family finds his attitude deeply hurtful. I’m stuck between wanting to opt out myself or trying to persuade him to change his mind because I can see how sad it makes my mother. My instinct is to stay out of it; we’re all adults. But I also feel a bit jealous and miffed. Is there a way forward?
—Stuck in the Middle
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3. Dear A.J.,
My husband’s brother, “George,” is a recovering alcoholic. He’s been sober for eight months. The thing is, Thanksgiving is coming up, and we’ve always served wine with dinner.
My husband thinks it would be completely inappropriate for us to do so this year because George is coming over, and he doesn’t want him to be “tempted.” I understand that George is going to be battling his alcoholism for the rest of his life, but at the same time, he can’t expect the world around him to be dry everywhere he goes and needs to be able to navigate settings where alcohol is served. This is turning into a sticking point between my husband and me. Is my husband right? Am I being thoughtless?
—Warring Over Wine
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Terrible families!
Nov. 14th, 2025 05:01 amconuly posting in agonyaunt1. Dear Eric: I am in my late 30s. I live halfway across the country from my parents, and don't have the best relationship with them. I also have a brother four years younger than me who I have been estranged from for 20 years.
My brother doesn't live with my parents, but he lives in the same city my parents do. If I visit, my parents will tell him and have him come over. I have no intentions of reconciling with him, as he did some horrible things to me 20 years ago which I can never forgive him for.
With my parents, things don't get through unless I take drastic measures. How do I go about conveying my desires not to see him? My plan would be to tell them they have to tell him he can't come to their house while I'm there, and if they don't respect my wishes, I simply won't see them. And that my parents can't just say they want to see me and not respect my conditions for the visit. I wanted your perspective on how I can "lay down the law" and enforce it.
– Unwelcome Home
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2. Dear Annie: I'm 28 and recently moved back in with my parents to save money after a tough breakup. I'm grateful for the support, but I'm having trouble with my mom's behavior. She constantly comments on my weight, how I dress, or how much I'm on my phone. Last week, she said I'd have "better luck" if I wore makeup and "put myself out there more."
I've tried brushing it off, but it's starting to wear me down. I've asked her, gently, to stop making comments about my appearance, but she just laughs and says she's "trying to help." My dad usually stays quiet or tells me not to be so sensitive.
I really want to move out, but I can't afford to just yet. Do I have to suffer through the next few months or is there a way to get through to her? -- Tired Daughter in Transition
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3. Dear Annie: My wife and I visit our daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter two or three times a year for about three days each visit. It's a five- to six-hour drive for us. Both my wife and I have severe asthma primarily from cat allergies, and we struggle with wheezing and irritated eyes every time we visit. My SIL has cat allergies, too.
Recently, their cat died (finally), and I urged my daughter to consider not getting another one. I explained our situation clearly, stating that if she did so, we'd have to stay at a hotel or B&B during future visits. She just got two more cats.
What would you think? -- Allergic and Angry
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4. Dear Annie: My husband, "Keith," and I have been married for 12 years. We've always been a team when it comes to parenting our two kids, ages 9 and 6, but lately I've noticed a shift. Keith has become increasingly harsh with them, especially our oldest, "Ben." He'll snap over small things -- like a jacket left on the floor or a missed chore -- and his tone has turned cold and critical.
I've brought it up several times, but Keith insists he's "just trying to teach them responsibility." I understand that, but I worry he's doing more harm than good. Ben has started shutting down emotionally, and our younger one is now walking on eggshells.
When I try to step in and soften things, Keith accuses me of "undermining" him. I'm stuck between protecting my kids and maintaining a united front as parents. I've suggested counseling, but he refuses, saying we don't need it.
How do I support my children without turning this into a bigger conflict between me and my husband? And how do I get Keith to see that his approach may be damaging? -- Worried Wife and Mom
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5. Dear Care and Feeding,
I was once an academic competition prodigy. I was one word away from making the National Spelling Bee. My family would always attend these events, including my sister. However, when my sister started her own events, like the middle school choir, my disdain for attending was quite obvious through my groans and moans. I was a high schooler myself and quite self-centered. At her graduation, I volunteered not to go and opted instead to meet them at the restaurant where we would be celebrating.
I was 100 percent wrong for doing this. Now I am two years out of college, and my sister is almost done with her undergraduate degree. Since then, we haven’t really talked, though things are mostly cordial between us. I can count the conversations I’ve had with her since I turned 18 on one hand. My sister frequently states that when she makes it out, she probably will be a stranger to the family, and she doesn’t respond a lot to my parents or other family when they contact her. I admit that we don’t have many common interests, and I don’t know much about her, but it feels wrong not to be close to your own sister. Is there anything I can do, or is this relationship beyond repair?
—Is There a Chance?
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6. Dear Care and Feeding,
In the ‘70s and ‘80s, my learning disabilities were undiagnosed, and I was the “stupid” one in the family. As an adult, I know myself to be very intelligent, but my siblings never realized this, and they have passed on their attitudes to their school-age children.
The kids do not believe me when I speak to them about current events or anything fact-based. When they ask an adult at large to spell something, and I reply, they check my response with another adult. I told one of them a medical fact, and they told me flatly that their parent was much, much smarter, and their parent said otherwise, so I must be wrong. (The fact that I do not work due to a medical issue probably contributes to their perception of me as extremely unintelligent.)
My siblings think this is hilarious. I am hurt. I want to have a relationship with the kids while I still can. I have tried explaining learning disabilities and multiple intelligences to the kids, but I think they just see it as me lecturing them. I only see them every few months anyway. Is this battle even worth fighting? If so, how?
—The Uncle
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7. DEAR HARRIETTE: How do I get someone who believes in tough love to understand that that does not resonate with me? For a long time, my siblings and I have had strained relationships with our mom because of how crass she can be. She has strong and often negative opinions, and she is not shy about sharing them. I was recently admitted to a two-year college. I am in my late 20s and didn't prioritize college when I was 18 like my parents wanted.
Apparently, there's still some resentment there, because when I announced which school I'd be going to, my mom snickered and asked me if I was proud of that school. When she realized that she had offended me, she said that she was trying to encourage me. I can't keep letting her impose her negativity on me. Mocking me is NOT encouragement. I don't know how to get her to see that, though. -- Never Good Enough
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8. DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently got into a heated argument with my dad, and it's been bothering me ever since. The fight started when I told him I wanted to move to a different city for a job opportunity. He criticized my decision, saying I was being reckless and that I should stay closer to home where things are "safe" and familiar. I tried to explain why this move was important for my career and independence, but he kept bringing up past choices he didn't agree with, like leaving my old job and choosing a career path he hadn't expected. Before I knew it, I was yelling back, telling him that I need to make my own decisions and that his constant criticism feels controlling.
We haven't spoken in a few days, and I feel a mix of frustration, guilt and sadness. I love my dad and value his opinion, but I feel like he doesn't trust me to make my own choices. I want to reach out and repair our relationship, but I don't want to be the only one apologizing if he doesn't acknowledge his role in the argument. How do I approach him in a way that expresses my feelings honestly while also opening the door for reconciliation? Is it possible to set boundaries and stand firm on my decisions without damaging our relationship further? -- Dad Divide
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My brother doesn't live with my parents, but he lives in the same city my parents do. If I visit, my parents will tell him and have him come over. I have no intentions of reconciling with him, as he did some horrible things to me 20 years ago which I can never forgive him for.
With my parents, things don't get through unless I take drastic measures. How do I go about conveying my desires not to see him? My plan would be to tell them they have to tell him he can't come to their house while I'm there, and if they don't respect my wishes, I simply won't see them. And that my parents can't just say they want to see me and not respect my conditions for the visit. I wanted your perspective on how I can "lay down the law" and enforce it.
– Unwelcome Home
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2. Dear Annie: I'm 28 and recently moved back in with my parents to save money after a tough breakup. I'm grateful for the support, but I'm having trouble with my mom's behavior. She constantly comments on my weight, how I dress, or how much I'm on my phone. Last week, she said I'd have "better luck" if I wore makeup and "put myself out there more."
I've tried brushing it off, but it's starting to wear me down. I've asked her, gently, to stop making comments about my appearance, but she just laughs and says she's "trying to help." My dad usually stays quiet or tells me not to be so sensitive.
I really want to move out, but I can't afford to just yet. Do I have to suffer through the next few months or is there a way to get through to her? -- Tired Daughter in Transition
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3. Dear Annie: My wife and I visit our daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter two or three times a year for about three days each visit. It's a five- to six-hour drive for us. Both my wife and I have severe asthma primarily from cat allergies, and we struggle with wheezing and irritated eyes every time we visit. My SIL has cat allergies, too.
Recently, their cat died (finally), and I urged my daughter to consider not getting another one. I explained our situation clearly, stating that if she did so, we'd have to stay at a hotel or B&B during future visits. She just got two more cats.
What would you think? -- Allergic and Angry
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4. Dear Annie: My husband, "Keith," and I have been married for 12 years. We've always been a team when it comes to parenting our two kids, ages 9 and 6, but lately I've noticed a shift. Keith has become increasingly harsh with them, especially our oldest, "Ben." He'll snap over small things -- like a jacket left on the floor or a missed chore -- and his tone has turned cold and critical.
I've brought it up several times, but Keith insists he's "just trying to teach them responsibility." I understand that, but I worry he's doing more harm than good. Ben has started shutting down emotionally, and our younger one is now walking on eggshells.
When I try to step in and soften things, Keith accuses me of "undermining" him. I'm stuck between protecting my kids and maintaining a united front as parents. I've suggested counseling, but he refuses, saying we don't need it.
How do I support my children without turning this into a bigger conflict between me and my husband? And how do I get Keith to see that his approach may be damaging? -- Worried Wife and Mom
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5. Dear Care and Feeding,
I was once an academic competition prodigy. I was one word away from making the National Spelling Bee. My family would always attend these events, including my sister. However, when my sister started her own events, like the middle school choir, my disdain for attending was quite obvious through my groans and moans. I was a high schooler myself and quite self-centered. At her graduation, I volunteered not to go and opted instead to meet them at the restaurant where we would be celebrating.
I was 100 percent wrong for doing this. Now I am two years out of college, and my sister is almost done with her undergraduate degree. Since then, we haven’t really talked, though things are mostly cordial between us. I can count the conversations I’ve had with her since I turned 18 on one hand. My sister frequently states that when she makes it out, she probably will be a stranger to the family, and she doesn’t respond a lot to my parents or other family when they contact her. I admit that we don’t have many common interests, and I don’t know much about her, but it feels wrong not to be close to your own sister. Is there anything I can do, or is this relationship beyond repair?
—Is There a Chance?
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6. Dear Care and Feeding,
In the ‘70s and ‘80s, my learning disabilities were undiagnosed, and I was the “stupid” one in the family. As an adult, I know myself to be very intelligent, but my siblings never realized this, and they have passed on their attitudes to their school-age children.
The kids do not believe me when I speak to them about current events or anything fact-based. When they ask an adult at large to spell something, and I reply, they check my response with another adult. I told one of them a medical fact, and they told me flatly that their parent was much, much smarter, and their parent said otherwise, so I must be wrong. (The fact that I do not work due to a medical issue probably contributes to their perception of me as extremely unintelligent.)
My siblings think this is hilarious. I am hurt. I want to have a relationship with the kids while I still can. I have tried explaining learning disabilities and multiple intelligences to the kids, but I think they just see it as me lecturing them. I only see them every few months anyway. Is this battle even worth fighting? If so, how?
—The Uncle
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7. DEAR HARRIETTE: How do I get someone who believes in tough love to understand that that does not resonate with me? For a long time, my siblings and I have had strained relationships with our mom because of how crass she can be. She has strong and often negative opinions, and she is not shy about sharing them. I was recently admitted to a two-year college. I am in my late 20s and didn't prioritize college when I was 18 like my parents wanted.
Apparently, there's still some resentment there, because when I announced which school I'd be going to, my mom snickered and asked me if I was proud of that school. When she realized that she had offended me, she said that she was trying to encourage me. I can't keep letting her impose her negativity on me. Mocking me is NOT encouragement. I don't know how to get her to see that, though. -- Never Good Enough
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8. DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently got into a heated argument with my dad, and it's been bothering me ever since. The fight started when I told him I wanted to move to a different city for a job opportunity. He criticized my decision, saying I was being reckless and that I should stay closer to home where things are "safe" and familiar. I tried to explain why this move was important for my career and independence, but he kept bringing up past choices he didn't agree with, like leaving my old job and choosing a career path he hadn't expected. Before I knew it, I was yelling back, telling him that I need to make my own decisions and that his constant criticism feels controlling.
We haven't spoken in a few days, and I feel a mix of frustration, guilt and sadness. I love my dad and value his opinion, but I feel like he doesn't trust me to make my own choices. I want to reach out and repair our relationship, but I don't want to be the only one apologizing if he doesn't acknowledge his role in the argument. How do I approach him in a way that expresses my feelings honestly while also opening the door for reconciliation? Is it possible to set boundaries and stand firm on my decisions without damaging our relationship further? -- Dad Divide
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Frustration du jour
Nov. 14th, 2025 12:15 pmandrewduckerI can't believe I have to put up with another 11 days of the news cycle being about what may or may not possibly maybe be in the budget.
Interesting Links for 14-11-2025
Nov. 14th, 2025 12:00 pmandrewducker- 1. 'Segregated facilities' are no longer explicitly banned in federal contracts
- (tags:usa racism )
- 2. Lupus may be caused by the common Epstein-Barr virus (as well as MS)
- (tags:disease virus immune_system )
- 3. Waymo robotaxis are now giving rides on freeways in LA, San Francisco, and Phoenix
- (tags:automation driving usa )
- 4. The last-ever US penny was minted today in Philadelphia
- (tags:usa money cash )
- 5. Inside China's Mini PC Production: How Tiny Computers Are Made (a 22 minute factory tour)
- (tags:computers video manufacturing )
- 6. Marble: generating 3D scenes from text and imagery prompts
- (tags:3d design ai )
- 7. GOOD LUCK, HAVE FUN, DON'T DIE (apocalyptically strange looking film, I rather fancy it)
- (tags:movies trailer weird video )
- 8. 5 key points as legal experts grilled by MSPs on indyref2
- (tags:scotland independence law )
- 9. Drop in U.S. Religiosity Among Largest in World (down 17% in a decade, to less than half)
- (tags:religion USA )
- 10. UK tax calculator showing tax rates and marginal rates under various suggestions by different groups/parties
- (tags:tax UK visualisation )
Geez, this dude....
Nov. 14th, 2025 05:19 amconuly posting in agonyauntDear Eric: Over the course of our 26-year marriage I have caught my wife in numerous lies. We started marriage counseling three months ago and during an early session I asked if we could finally be truthful with each other, no more lies. No such luck.
Years ago, her brother suddenly fled and left all his belongings. She put them in storage but when I found out I told her to remove them or have him pay the monthly fee. Today I discovered she has been paying for her brother’s monthly storage bill for at least 10 years without my knowledge. That comes to $16,500. It may even be higher.
Initially she said she was being reimbursed. I asked for proof. She said she would show me. Then she changed her story to say it's her money and she can spend it however she chooses, so forget the proof. Pretty sure there never was any proof of reimbursement. My wife believes the best defense is to go on the offense, and she does it a lot.
I am married to a liar, a sneak, someone with no conscience. What should I do?
– Deceived Again
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Years ago, her brother suddenly fled and left all his belongings. She put them in storage but when I found out I told her to remove them or have him pay the monthly fee. Today I discovered she has been paying for her brother’s monthly storage bill for at least 10 years without my knowledge. That comes to $16,500. It may even be higher.
Initially she said she was being reimbursed. I asked for proof. She said she would show me. Then she changed her story to say it's her money and she can spend it however she chooses, so forget the proof. Pretty sure there never was any proof of reimbursement. My wife believes the best defense is to go on the offense, and she does it a lot.
I am married to a liar, a sneak, someone with no conscience. What should I do?
– Deceived Again
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Nov. 14th, 2025 03:50 amconuly posting in agonyauntMy 5-year-old daughter, “Wren,” has been a nail-biter for the past six months. Nothing my husband and I tried could break her of the habit. Then miraculously, she stopped. When I mentioned my relief to my mother-in-law, she took credit for it. Then she told me her “solution.”
She told Wren that her hair would fall out if she kept biting her nails! I’m not sure how to feel about this. On the one hand, I’m pissed my mother-in-law would lie to my daughter. On the other hand, it worked. Do I need to tell Wren the truth, or can my husband and I (at least for the time being) keep up the ruse?
—Something to Chew On
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She told Wren that her hair would fall out if she kept biting her nails! I’m not sure how to feel about this. On the one hand, I’m pissed my mother-in-law would lie to my daughter. On the other hand, it worked. Do I need to tell Wren the truth, or can my husband and I (at least for the time being) keep up the ruse?
—Something to Chew On
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