Five Days to the Default Deadline
Nov. 14th, 2025 09:57 pmFive days to the default deadline.
No shame if you need it. All good if you don't.
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Daily Check In.
Nov. 14th, 2025 06:24 pmHow are you doing?
I am okay
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I am not okay, but don't need help right now
5 (35.7%)
I could use some help.
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How many other humans are you living with?
I am living single
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One other person
5 (35.7%)
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Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
[ SECRET POST #6888 ]
Nov. 14th, 2025 05:48 pm⌈ Secret Post #6888 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[NYTimes Connections & Only Connect]
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Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #983.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Um what
Nov. 14th, 2025 01:36 pmDissect them.
Miss Manners does not usually condone deconstructing food in public, but these are desperate times. Use your chopsticks to pull out the insides and eat them separately. Then either squish the remaining rice and seaweed together and eat it in two bites or use the side of the chopstick to cut it in half.
Perhaps the sight of their beautiful creations being desecrated will inspire the chefs to make more manageable bites. Or at least have them wonder why everyone is suddenly ordering them as takeout instead.
Wounded Christmas Wolf
Nov. 14th, 2025 11:43 am
It is free book time again! This is a Christmas romance, a full length novel unrelated to my other series (though obviously it has shifter-romance-style werewolves in it). The link will work until the book goes live on Amazon on the 21st.
This book went through heavier rewrites than my books normally do, so please let me know if you notice any typos or inconsistencies and I will try to fix them!
As always, no obligation, but feel free to download and enjoy.
Free download from Bookfunnel:
https://dl.bookfunnel.com/1c4ety8smh
Yep, we're famous for our mud
Nov. 14th, 2025 01:26 pmOne of the magazines I read is Korea Magazine, published by the Korean Ministry of Sports, Culture, and Tourism.[^1]. Yesterday I was reading the July 2025 issue[^2] and I encountered an interesting article which reminded me of the quote which I used as the title for this post.[^3]
You know how towns have festivals highlighting whatever product the town is famous for? You know: Crawfish festival, potato festival, mullet festival, and so on. Well, apparently the South Korean town of Boryeong is famous for their mud, to the point that they have a festival for it.
Once you get past the oddity of having a festival about mud, it's actually a good story that other places[^4] could benefit from: Boryeong was previously a coal-mining town, then when the mines closed in the early 1990s, they needed some other product to give the town a reason to exist. They discovered that the mud in the flats around the town was rich in bentonite and germanium, both of which are apparently beneficial for the skin, and so Boryeong went into the mud business. And now the mud festival, originally organized to promote the mud business, has become big enough to become an industry of its own, with mud-based entertainment opportunities, live music, and Korean music shows coming out to film episodes at the festival. The mud festival is now big enough to attract international visitors to Boryeong, most of whom would almost certainly not have even heard of Boryeong without the festival, much less have gone there. "Famous for our mud," indeed.
[^1] It used to be a free paper magazine, but now it's strictly an e-magazine.
[^2] I read a lot of magazines, but except for The Nation I don't read any of them in anything like a timely manner.
[^3] For those of you who don't recognize it, it's from My Cousin Vinny, which I highly recommend if you haven't watched it yet.
[^4] I'm looking at you, West Virginia.
Biggles Holiday Airdrop 2025 signups are open!
Nov. 14th, 2025 10:27 am2025 AO3 Collection | Signup Page | Tagset
The tagset has been preloaded with individual character tags for the main characters as well as relationships that are commonly requested in exchanges. For anything you want that's not in there already, feel free to add it! (I've given everyone a ton of nomination slots, so you shouldn't have any problems running out, but I can also add tags for you if you like!) Tags will need to be approved by the mods, so there'll be a bit of a delay while that happens.
A few tagset notes:
* In this exchange, "Character & Anyone" is the way to request a character on their own; this could be interacting with other canon characters, OCs, animals, or just a character study of the character alone. Basically treat it like the "Solo: Character" tag in some other exchanges.
* You can also request "Character/Anyone" or (probably more recommended) narrower variants such as "Erich von Stalhein/Any Male Character."
* For the "anyone" tags, it's okay to DNW individual characters in your signup, e.g. you can request Erich/Any Male Character but DNW Zorotov and Fritz.
* You can also request groups in general, such as "Erich von Stalhein & Any SAP" or "Any Member(s) of 666 Squadron" or "Erich von Stalhein & Any Member(s) of Biggles's Family". For those requests, any one or more members of the requested group will be acceptable.
Go forth, sign up, and please let me know right away if you have any questions or problems! Signups will close a week from today, next Friday, and assignments will go out by Saturday evening if not sooner.
(Edit: You are welcome to mention this exchange in any community, discord, forum, etc, where you think Biggles fans might hang out! I will be posting about it to Fandom Calendar and Tumblr this weekend.)
Mirror Mirror
Nov. 14th, 2025 02:43 pmThe adventures conclude! Spoilers for the earlier ones ahead!
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Turkey A
Nov. 14th, 2025 12:42 pm1 13-pound turkey became:
- 2 trays with a turkey breast and a drumstick each, topped with peach chutney, slow baked over diced sweet potatoes* and chickpeas
- 1 tray of turkey thighs and tail, topped with Shepherd Herb Mix, slow baked over minced onion*, bits of sourdough bread, and a bit of sage* salt
- 1 tray of turkey wings, topped with Xinjian Spice Mix, slow baked over minced onion*, sliced carrots*, diced golden beets*, and the end of the peach chutney
- 1 pot of turkey soup, using the frame and the neck, also leeks*, carrots*, sweet potato*, and purple-top turnips*
- 1 pan of turkey gribenes, some put away for later, the rest sauted with onion*, spinach*, potato, and the bits of turkey left from a rather imperfect carving job on a not-fully-defrosted bird
* locally sourced
(“tray” here means 9x13 foil pan)
Maybe the stupidest reason for hope, ever,
Nov. 14th, 2025 10:48 amhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High_Potential(High Potential,I missed.)
It's a good show and I love how Kaitlin dresses, even if I don't think I can carry it off
25 Things in 2025 - Thing #14
Nov. 14th, 2025 04:15 pmI had planned to finish this in September, which I would have managed had I started reading it in April, but I didn't begin until June, so I've only just finished now. But it's still done within the year.
This book has almost all the paintings by Brueghel the Elder. I had requested it as a Christmas present, and had read up on a few of the paintings, but this time I worked all through the book. The paintings themselves are wonderful - very detailed and certainly worth looking at closely. The book was semi-interesting, helpfully pointing out details not to be missed, but at the same time the theological interpretation was very much of the author and extremely narrow-minded. Every painting was examined in the same way, and I frequently disagreed with the interpretation.
Having said that, I didn't want the book for the commentary, but to have the paintings and the challenge this year was to look properly at them, so I was happy with the outcome.

Coping with a design flaw
Nov. 14th, 2025 09:23 amFor as long as I can remember, I've disliked sleep. It seems like the biggest waste of time there could possibly be. I've used sleep as an argument against intelligent design — not necessarily against "design," but at the very least against "intelligent": Designing a mechanism that has to be shut down for at least 1/3 of its lifespan in order to function doesn't strike me as a very good idea. Combine this with my perfectionist/workaholic tendencies and you end up with someone who goes full tilt until they just can't anymore, at which point I end up going to bed several hours early, regardless of what I'm leaving undone, because I just physically cannot stay awake any longer.
I know it's not the healthiest way to do things, but I just can't seem to help myself, and until they come up with a chemical substitute for sleep that has fewer side effects than meth or cocaine, well. . . there I am. Or, well, there I was. As we were driving home from the dentist yesterday, A. came up with a way to weaponize my perfectionism against me: Make rest a quantifiable plan/goal for me to work toward (quantifiable both so that I can be sure that I'm doing it and also so that I can know when I've done it enough and don't have to do it anymore). She managed to get me to commit to two 10-minute meditations a week along with one night a week where I don't write (as writing is the last thing I do every day, so it often delays my bedtime). She tried to get me to commit to two meditations and two nights of not writing, I tried to talk her down to two meditations and one night where I try not to write, and this is what we settled on. I'm willing to concede that it's possible that taking this additional rest will make me so much more productive in the time that I'm not resting that I won't resent the time spent resting. On the other hand, if 52 years of sleeping almost every night hasn't reconciled me to the necessity of sleeping. . .
Thinking women
Nov. 14th, 2025 02:51 pmI don't think we actually have to claim she invented science fiction, because to the best of my recollection and without going and looking it up, various people in the C17th were doing similar things. Also, honestly, why can we not claim women among the Great Eccentrics of History? What we like about Margaret Cavendish is that she appears to have heartily embraced this identity rather than having it plonked upon her by a judgemental world: The Duchess Who Invented Science Fiction.
Though I am slightly muttering under my breath about the women of the time who were also Doing Science and Being Intellectual in a rather less flamboyant fashion e.g. Lady Ranelagh, and indeed women in the Evelyn circle....
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Quiet persistence and a lucky combination of first husband dying after a few years of marriage and sympathetic second husband (see also Mrs Delany): Mary Somerville – the first scientist - she taught Ada Lovelace, plus she lived to be 92. (You know, I am sorry for those women in science who died tragically young, but we hear a lot less about the ones like Dorothy Hodgkin who had a long and spectacularly effective career in crystallography while suffering from rheumatoid arthritis and actually GOT THE NOBEL. I also mark her up for persistence in humanitarian concerns.)
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Okay, Amy Levy did die, by her own hand, distressingly young: but her personal archive, up till now in private hands, has now been acquired by the University of Cambridge Library: The archive of enigmatic 19th-century writer Amy Levy has a new home at Cambridge University Library
What Could Go Wrong?
Nov. 14th, 2025 02:00 pmI've often thought the "sex-reveal cake" trend was fraught with peril, and today's wreck is a good example of why.
In case you haven't heard of it, the reveal cake has either pink or blue icing hidden inside, depending on the baby's sex - but the kicker is, the parents bring that info sealed from their doctor to the bakery, so the cake is how they find out if they're having a boy or a girl.
So...you're trusting a baker to correctly communicate your baby's sex?
Gee, WHAT COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG?
[whistling innocently]
Happily Kevin S. and his wife already knew they were having a boy, but for fun they decided to send a reveal cake to his parents to break the news. As is typical, they asked for it to be white on the outside and decorated with pink and blue polka dots, plus maybe a few question marks. Then they asked for blue icing inside the cake.
When the special order arrived at Kevin's parents' house, this is what they found:
o.0
And to think: someone looked at this and thought, "Yeah, that's what the customer wanted."
(John says you should read that cake out loud. So, go on. DO EET!)
Still, as baby cake trends go, it could always - ALWAYS - be worse:
...and frequently is. *sigh*
Thanks to Kevin and Stephanie F. for that revealing slice of humor.
*****
This book has over 2,000 5-star reviews and looks absolutely hysterical, definitely bookmark it for the new parents in your life:
*****
And from my other blog, Epbot:
WIP Challenge Check-in, Day 14 -- Friday
Nov. 14th, 2025 08:46 am- I thought about my fic once or twice
- I wrote
- I did some planning and/or research
- I edited
- I've sent my fic off to my beta
- I posted today!
- I'm taking a break
- I did something else that I'll talk about in a comment
Looking forward, how are you planning to spend your weekend?
- I'm going to make up for not writing all week by having a writing marathon
- I'm going to keep writing at my current rate and see how it goes
- I have other plans, but I might have time to get some writing in
- I'm going to take a break from writing
Harriette continues to be the worst
Nov. 14th, 2025 09:28 amI tried to unpack with him what he had said, but I didn't get far. He shared that he thought my expectations were too aggressive and that no kid will be able to thrive around me. I think of parenting as a balance between structure and vulnerability, and I've always hoped I will be an honest and understanding mom. Neither of us has children, by the way.
I want my friend to know his harsh critiques impacted me and that he should be more mindful with his opinions in the future. Is it even worth revisiting this conversation? -- Bad Mom
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Thanksgiving
Nov. 14th, 2025 05:02 amI know if I say something about a hotel, they will be highly insulted.
My daughter also comes and stays, but that’s different. She’s one person and my daughter. Advice?
– Overwhelmed
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2. Dear Prudence,
My brother has good relationships with everybody but refuses to be part of Thanksgiving, Christmas, or large group events because he says that while he loves us individually, we’re a nightmare collectively. I get it and, frankly, I would love to do the same—my parents and wider family are lovely but bicker and squabble when they get together, particularly over politics, which gets ever uglier. But I also know that my family finds his attitude deeply hurtful. I’m stuck between wanting to opt out myself or trying to persuade him to change his mind because I can see how sad it makes my mother. My instinct is to stay out of it; we’re all adults. But I also feel a bit jealous and miffed. Is there a way forward?
—Stuck in the Middle
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3. Dear A.J.,
My husband’s brother, “George,” is a recovering alcoholic. He’s been sober for eight months. The thing is, Thanksgiving is coming up, and we’ve always served wine with dinner.
My husband thinks it would be completely inappropriate for us to do so this year because George is coming over, and he doesn’t want him to be “tempted.” I understand that George is going to be battling his alcoholism for the rest of his life, but at the same time, he can’t expect the world around him to be dry everywhere he goes and needs to be able to navigate settings where alcohol is served. This is turning into a sticking point between my husband and me. Is my husband right? Am I being thoughtless?
—Warring Over Wine
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Terrible families!
Nov. 14th, 2025 05:01 amMy brother doesn't live with my parents, but he lives in the same city my parents do. If I visit, my parents will tell him and have him come over. I have no intentions of reconciling with him, as he did some horrible things to me 20 years ago which I can never forgive him for.
With my parents, things don't get through unless I take drastic measures. How do I go about conveying my desires not to see him? My plan would be to tell them they have to tell him he can't come to their house while I'm there, and if they don't respect my wishes, I simply won't see them. And that my parents can't just say they want to see me and not respect my conditions for the visit. I wanted your perspective on how I can "lay down the law" and enforce it.
– Unwelcome Home
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2. Dear Annie: I'm 28 and recently moved back in with my parents to save money after a tough breakup. I'm grateful for the support, but I'm having trouble with my mom's behavior. She constantly comments on my weight, how I dress, or how much I'm on my phone. Last week, she said I'd have "better luck" if I wore makeup and "put myself out there more."
I've tried brushing it off, but it's starting to wear me down. I've asked her, gently, to stop making comments about my appearance, but she just laughs and says she's "trying to help." My dad usually stays quiet or tells me not to be so sensitive.
I really want to move out, but I can't afford to just yet. Do I have to suffer through the next few months or is there a way to get through to her? -- Tired Daughter in Transition
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3. Dear Annie: My wife and I visit our daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter two or three times a year for about three days each visit. It's a five- to six-hour drive for us. Both my wife and I have severe asthma primarily from cat allergies, and we struggle with wheezing and irritated eyes every time we visit. My SIL has cat allergies, too.
Recently, their cat died (finally), and I urged my daughter to consider not getting another one. I explained our situation clearly, stating that if she did so, we'd have to stay at a hotel or B&B during future visits. She just got two more cats.
What would you think? -- Allergic and Angry
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4. Dear Annie: My husband, "Keith," and I have been married for 12 years. We've always been a team when it comes to parenting our two kids, ages 9 and 6, but lately I've noticed a shift. Keith has become increasingly harsh with them, especially our oldest, "Ben." He'll snap over small things -- like a jacket left on the floor or a missed chore -- and his tone has turned cold and critical.
I've brought it up several times, but Keith insists he's "just trying to teach them responsibility." I understand that, but I worry he's doing more harm than good. Ben has started shutting down emotionally, and our younger one is now walking on eggshells.
When I try to step in and soften things, Keith accuses me of "undermining" him. I'm stuck between protecting my kids and maintaining a united front as parents. I've suggested counseling, but he refuses, saying we don't need it.
How do I support my children without turning this into a bigger conflict between me and my husband? And how do I get Keith to see that his approach may be damaging? -- Worried Wife and Mom
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5. Dear Care and Feeding,
I was once an academic competition prodigy. I was one word away from making the National Spelling Bee. My family would always attend these events, including my sister. However, when my sister started her own events, like the middle school choir, my disdain for attending was quite obvious through my groans and moans. I was a high schooler myself and quite self-centered. At her graduation, I volunteered not to go and opted instead to meet them at the restaurant where we would be celebrating.
I was 100 percent wrong for doing this. Now I am two years out of college, and my sister is almost done with her undergraduate degree. Since then, we haven’t really talked, though things are mostly cordial between us. I can count the conversations I’ve had with her since I turned 18 on one hand. My sister frequently states that when she makes it out, she probably will be a stranger to the family, and she doesn’t respond a lot to my parents or other family when they contact her. I admit that we don’t have many common interests, and I don’t know much about her, but it feels wrong not to be close to your own sister. Is there anything I can do, or is this relationship beyond repair?
—Is There a Chance?
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6. Dear Care and Feeding,
In the ‘70s and ‘80s, my learning disabilities were undiagnosed, and I was the “stupid” one in the family. As an adult, I know myself to be very intelligent, but my siblings never realized this, and they have passed on their attitudes to their school-age children.
The kids do not believe me when I speak to them about current events or anything fact-based. When they ask an adult at large to spell something, and I reply, they check my response with another adult. I told one of them a medical fact, and they told me flatly that their parent was much, much smarter, and their parent said otherwise, so I must be wrong. (The fact that I do not work due to a medical issue probably contributes to their perception of me as extremely unintelligent.)
My siblings think this is hilarious. I am hurt. I want to have a relationship with the kids while I still can. I have tried explaining learning disabilities and multiple intelligences to the kids, but I think they just see it as me lecturing them. I only see them every few months anyway. Is this battle even worth fighting? If so, how?
—The Uncle
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7. DEAR HARRIETTE: How do I get someone who believes in tough love to understand that that does not resonate with me? For a long time, my siblings and I have had strained relationships with our mom because of how crass she can be. She has strong and often negative opinions, and she is not shy about sharing them. I was recently admitted to a two-year college. I am in my late 20s and didn't prioritize college when I was 18 like my parents wanted.
Apparently, there's still some resentment there, because when I announced which school I'd be going to, my mom snickered and asked me if I was proud of that school. When she realized that she had offended me, she said that she was trying to encourage me. I can't keep letting her impose her negativity on me. Mocking me is NOT encouragement. I don't know how to get her to see that, though. -- Never Good Enough
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8. DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently got into a heated argument with my dad, and it's been bothering me ever since. The fight started when I told him I wanted to move to a different city for a job opportunity. He criticized my decision, saying I was being reckless and that I should stay closer to home where things are "safe" and familiar. I tried to explain why this move was important for my career and independence, but he kept bringing up past choices he didn't agree with, like leaving my old job and choosing a career path he hadn't expected. Before I knew it, I was yelling back, telling him that I need to make my own decisions and that his constant criticism feels controlling.
We haven't spoken in a few days, and I feel a mix of frustration, guilt and sadness. I love my dad and value his opinion, but I feel like he doesn't trust me to make my own choices. I want to reach out and repair our relationship, but I don't want to be the only one apologizing if he doesn't acknowledge his role in the argument. How do I approach him in a way that expresses my feelings honestly while also opening the door for reconciliation? Is it possible to set boundaries and stand firm on my decisions without damaging our relationship further? -- Dad Divide
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The Day in Spikedluv (Thursday, Nov 13)
Nov. 14th, 2025 07:15 amI watched another Hallmark Christmas movie and some HGTV programs. Zoo Tampa was my background tv in the evening. I dropped by the library to return books and asked about them ordering a book. (The latest J.D. Robb; it’s odd that they haven’t already ordered it because they usually order that series.) And I made sure I was on the hold list for the new Louise Penny.
In the annoying story of sciatica redux, I am starting to feel some 'pain' (mild, more like a twinge, feels sort of like a muscle pull) in the middle of my buttock again. My chiropractor had said to keep track of anything like that happening and to keep icing, just in case it was not as fully gone as I thought. And here we are. I really hope it's just the last vestiges and not starting up again. Or planning to hang on forever. o_O *fingers crossed*
Temps started out at 38.1(F) and reached 40.8. Today was a combination of rain, snow, sun, wind, more rain . . . I did not appreciate the variety, tbh.
Mom Update:
Mom seemed to be more tired than usual today. ( more back here )
Geez, this dude....
Nov. 14th, 2025 05:19 amYears ago, her brother suddenly fled and left all his belongings. She put them in storage but when I found out I told her to remove them or have him pay the monthly fee. Today I discovered she has been paying for her brother’s monthly storage bill for at least 10 years without my knowledge. That comes to $16,500. It may even be higher.
Initially she said she was being reimbursed. I asked for proof. She said she would show me. Then she changed her story to say it's her money and she can spend it however she chooses, so forget the proof. Pretty sure there never was any proof of reimbursement. My wife believes the best defense is to go on the offense, and she does it a lot.
I am married to a liar, a sneak, someone with no conscience. What should I do?
– Deceived Again
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Follow Friday 11-14-25
Nov. 14th, 2025 03:11 amHere's the plan: every Friday, let's recommend some people and/or communities to follow on Dreamwidth. That's it. No complicated rules, no "pass this on to 7.328 friends or your cat will die".
(no subject)
Nov. 14th, 2025 03:50 amShe told Wren that her hair would fall out if she kept biting her nails! I’m not sure how to feel about this. On the one hand, I’m pissed my mother-in-law would lie to my daughter. On the other hand, it worked. Do I need to tell Wren the truth, or can my husband and I (at least for the time being) keep up the ruse?
—Something to Chew On
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(no subject)
Nov. 14th, 2025 01:08 amShe is the type of person who will always compliment you verbally, but you can often tell by her expression how she really feels. I described her as rather fake, but my brother said I am being unfair. He pointed out that I could be accused of being equally judgmental by holding against someone not their words and actions, but my own belief about what’s going on inside their head, whether or not it’s true. I had never thought of it that way.
My brother never seems to care about other people’s opinions. I’d like to try his mindset, which seems very freeing, but I don’t know how. It’s especially hard to embrace the idea that I’m supposed to just let it slide when I feel silently critiqued or when someone is only being nice to my face.
Am I oversensitive? Then what’s the right level of sensitivity? Any tips for me?
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Mostly musical
Nov. 14th, 2025 03:08 pmI was looking for a Chinese idiom equivalent to “pie in the sky” and found 画饼充饥 (feeding hunger on a drawing of a cake) which is not quite the same but kind of related; I also found 天上掉馅饼, meat pies falling from the sky, which sounds related and actually means more like “serendipity” lol (in Japanese 棚から牡丹餅, botamochi cakes falling off the shelf, or tanabota for short. Do other languages have serendipity idioms which involve falling food items, I wonder?).
Jiang Dunhao song(s) of the post: 命名, one of his signature songs—I’m not actually wild about the chorus, too rock-vocal for me, but the verse and the last line raise the hairs on the back of my neck (in a good way). Warning for flashing lights! And for something completely different from the same singer, 又是艳阳天, an adorable duet with the Taiwanese singer Claire Kuo, over on the jazz end of pop. (*Because there are a lot of bilibili.com links here—if you’re not logged in it stops playback a minute in, but if you close the pop-up and hit play again the video goes on. I almost don’t notice at this point.)
Also Jiang Dunhao-related (I’m sorry, I’ve been this obsessed for a while now), I’ve been watching a program for young singers on which he is a mentor. I hate the competition part—why do people always do this with music—but I’ve found it very entertaining otherwise, the young singers are VERY fun. I’m pleased to notice that several of the twenty-odd women contestants are not just not c-ent standard skinny but well over on the plump side, including Niu Mengyao, who has a fantastic contralto, and the Chinese-Malaysian Vanessa Reynauld (莎莎 to her Chinese colleagues), who is all-round adorable with her slangy English-Chinese, as well as Zhang Jiayu with a pretty floaty soprano. Long Yuxun also has an amazing deep voice: a talented and sort of nerdily self-absorbed young man called Jing Shenghui fell in love with her voice at first hearing, grabbed her to form a group with (they all have to make groups of three or four people), and has basically been glued to her side ever since, while she treats him with a kind of amused, impatient fondness and everyone else ships them. (A lot of what makes this program interesting is seeing which singers end up working together. I was tickled, and confused as usual by censorship rules, that not only were two women telling each other “I’m in love with you and your voice!” but everyone else was commenting 嗑到了, I ship it.) Other interesting contestants include Yin Yuke, who seems to want to be the next Zhou Shen only much more deliberately androgynous, and the delightful twins Xie Yuxuan and Xie Yu’ang, who compete and perform as a single entity (I just realized that their names must come from the chengyu 气宇轩昂); then there’s Chen Yang, a rock singer listed as from the mainland on Baidu and from Taiwan on Wikipedia (I know which one I believe), who clearly has a strong personality to match her strong voice and, well, I don’t have the strongest gaydar but this lady’s style… (Some very short links: Niu Mengyao and Vanessa Reynauld, Zhang Jiayu and Yin Yuke, Long Yuxun and Jing Shenghui, Xie Yuxuan and Xie Yu’ang, Chen Yang)
Orchestra stuff. I survived the previous concert—there were some places where I wish I’d done better, but at least one prominent little twiddle which I got right for the very first time during the concert itself, giving me a Mizutani feeling a character from the baseball manga Ookiku Furikabutte who says to himself at one point during a game, wow, I’ve practiced this really hard and I can actually do it! wow!. The new program is movie music, mostly dead boring, but the Totoro suite is actually quite fun here and there (although I think I’ll be tired of it in six months). And I’ve always loved the Star Wars suite, it’s a symphony and a good one, with the accompanying images it calls up from the movies (although sadly it doesn’t contain the Mos Eisley cantina jazz piece). At our first rehearsal I was joined by a high school senior, son of one of the bass players, who was of course a much better player than me (Japanese high school bands are brutal), very solemn and big-eyed and polite; we’ll see if he stays around, knock wood.
Bits of assorted reading: Antony and Cleopatra with yaaurens and company, where I by no means did justice to Enobarbus but enjoyed him anyway (and decided to adopt Charmian’s “keep yourself within yourself” line when in danger of losing my temper). Some Margery Allingham mysteries, which are very weird; I did enjoy her sub-Wimsey detective’s interpretation of “seems like Sweet Fanny Adams to me” into “I am not very sanguine about this.”
With encouragement from everyone around here and qian in particular, I have been sending off the agent query letters for my original thing at the rate of one a day since around the beginning of the month; so far three polite rejections, not that I’m expecting anything else. Reminding myself that some of the best authors I know (personally and otherwise) are self-published. One good thing unrelated to results is that I was reminded of the one effective way I know to get an intimidating task done: break it down into the tiniest components possible and tell myself I’m just going to do one of them and I don’t have to worry about the rest yet. One little tiny subtask at a time is usually surprisingly manageable.
Composers riffing on B.A.C.H.: Bach himself (or maybe not, authorship is disputed, but it’s certainly good enough to be Bach), and Schumann. I love both of these pieces, so helpful of Herr Bach to have a name with half-tones in it.
Photos: Mostly from another historical-building tour with Y, at the Chourakukan in Kyoto, plus some autumn sweets and some nice skies.
Be safe and well.
SOTD: Kiiras, "Bang Bang"
Nov. 13th, 2025 09:33 pmI was watching a couple of YouTube videos tonight when I happened to notice a new song from Kiiras in the sidebar, released less than 30 minutes ago at that time (33 minutes ago as I write this). I had loved Kiiras' debut song, Kill Ma Bo$$, because who wouldn't love a K-pop take on country music, so I jumped in and listed to this one right away. I loved it, was the 249th person to click "Like," and then came right over here to share it with all of you.
ETA: I didn't notice this until A. pointed it out to me (which I was rather embarrassed by): Their name is the "Hangul-ization" of the English word "Killers."
Notes from The Westing Game Podcast Fic
Nov. 13th, 2025 07:35 pm- -the book does not take place in a specific year but it takes place on specific days of the week corresponding to days of the month: November 15th is explicitly a Saturday.
The book was published in 1978. November 15th was not a Saturday in 1978. In previous fics, I've just set it in 1978 anyway, because who cares. And I did that here but it's bothering me that, especially when I need to reference things on a specific date, the day/week doesn't match up.
So I opened Excel to find what year(s) in the 1970s had a date/weekday correspondance. And it's only 1975.
The moon phases don't match up to 1975 but the moon phases are not something that is going to bother me; me specifically having the start of the game happen in the middle of the week instead of Sunday, that bothers me.
And still I dithered because I'd made myself a reference table with the heirs's birth years based on their ages in canon and then how old they'd be in 2007, when the fic is set, and I'd used that throughout the fic, and if I changed it to 1975, I'd have to change all of that. aldkfa;ldkfja;lkdjsfalks
But I'm going to do it anyway, and not only because I was like "okay wait, when you change everything and actually save the excel file this time instead of just copying the table with | into scrivener, make sure you have Crow's birthyear right because her birthday is Nov 15, so her age given in her bio will not be the year she turns during canon" and it turns out I'd had it wrong in the reference table anyway.
So now I need to change every single year that is mentioned at any point in the fic but at least it won't bother me anymore, the day of the week problems. - THEY UPDATED THE BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOK
All right. So. Rosalie, Flora Baumbach's daughter. She is referred to as a "Mongoloid" child in the book. She is referred to as that in both physical copies of the book I have.
But also I got the ebook out from the library to have on my phone too while doing this because why the hell not, and! it turns out! that the line that was originally "She had a retarded daughter, Rosalie, a Mongoloid child", now it just says "She had a disabled child, Rosalie"! (I give them only half a point in cutting "retarded" since they keep "retarded" in the discussion between Theo and Mrs. Baumbach about Chris)
Now, yes, I am fine with them removing both those terms BUT BUT BUT now since they just went with "disabled", now you have to rely on context clues and physical description of Rosalie to know that she had Down's!
It's an incredibly minor characterization detail, but I think it's a VERY IMPORTANT minor characterization detail in how Mrs. Baumbach relates to 1) Chris, and 2) Turtle, that Rosalie had Down's. And now it's "idek, figure it out from the clues we'll pepper in". JUST SAY SHE HAD DOWN'S SYNDROME. IT'S IMPORTANT. - And great, from a canon review/consistency stage, now I have to worry what else was changed in the book. (I haven't spotted any other changes but I did spot a typo: Sam Westing is called "Sara Westing" at one point. THAT WOULD BE A VERY DIFFERENT BOOK. DON'T GET ME WRONG, I WOULD READ THAT BOOK. BUT THAT IS NOT THIS BOOK.)
- It was not until this day (or, uh, yesterday? Two days ago? Some point in recent history) that I realized that... maybe Flora Baumbach is Jewish? Jake Wexler is textually. But... was I supposed to get the impression that Flora Baumbauch, nee Miller, is Jewish? Because the character never did that for me at any point at any time in the decades I have been rereading this book, but some of her various backstory details... uh, is she Jewish and I just never noticed?
- Also Denton Deere seems to have massively changed medical specialties during the book but you know what, that's unimportant.
- I appreciate that the book tells me that Turtle did not change her name upon marriage. I had to make an executive decision that Alice is just Deere, she is not hyphenated, even though she'd be in peak generational and peak socio-economical to be Wexler-Deere. But I made it just Deere for narrative reasons.
Why do I keep stumbling into fandoms where I have to make decisions about the last name of canonical children of the characters. Why.
Also I had to decide if Angela changed her name but at least that's not a load-bearing decision. She's an orthopedic surgeon. She's probably Dr. Wexler at work! But did she otherwise change it? Did she hyphenate? There's a good chance she hyphenated.
Dr. Deere is her husband, Dr. Wexler is her father... Angela, what did you do. (I have it as Dr. Deere right now and will likely keep it that way, on the theory that Grace pushed her hard to change her name and Angela went along with it.)
Daily check-in
Nov. 13th, 2025 07:51 pmOpen to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 22
How are you doing?
I am OK
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I am not OK, but don't need help right now
11 (50.0%)
I could use some help
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How many other humans live with you?
I am living single
9 (40.9%)
One other person
9 (40.9%)
More than one other person
4 (18.2%)
Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
[ SECRET POST #6887 ]
Nov. 13th, 2025 06:25 pm⌈ Secret Post #6887 ⌋
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Testimony of Mute Things licensed to Blackstone Audio
Nov. 13th, 2025 01:26 pmNo, I don't know when it will emerge from the other end of the production pipeline; prior experience suggests 2 to 6 months, probabilities leaning to the shorter end.
Re-using Ron Miller's art, which they've been doing for a while, should help speed things up on their vendor-page assembly. I've no idea what arcana is involved in recording, except I'm glad it's them and not me.
Subterranean Press has also offered for the novella. They'll have a much longer lead-time, probably into 2027, so breath-holding is contraindicated. I did get a look at Lauren Saint-Onge's final art for their upcoming "The Adventure of the Demonic Ox", which is particularly lovely this round. Publication sometime in the first half of 2026, I don't have a date yet. (Or the 1300 tip sheets to be signed, another necessary precursor. That will be a nice brainless task for this winter.)
Ta, L.
posted by Lois McMaster Bujold on November, 13
bad/good
Nov. 13th, 2025 10:03 pm- Ten-hour days at work.
- Brains that are mush and will not word.
- Too many appointments next week, on top of work.
Good things:
- Super mild November weather that let me ride a bike today (during my lunch break) without getting chilled. And tomorrow again, it looks like!
- Delicious home-cooked food from the freezer that only needs heating up with zero effort on my part. (Thanks, past me!)
ficinabox has a two-week extension! Now I can expand that thing I wanted to expand. :D
fandomtrees is open for sign-ups!
In conclusion, the good things are better than the bad things are bad. Yay? *g*
A certain concurrence here....
Nov. 13th, 2025 07:32 pmNoted as of interest a day or so ago, ‘I don’t want anyone to suffer like I did’: the intersex campaigners fighting to limit surgery on children - am a bit gloomed to think that this is Still An Issue because I look back and surely this was brought to wider attention, oh, at least twenty or years ago?
Ah. A little delving shows me that the person I remember as doing pioneering research on the subject, published around the late 90s, and also involved in intersex activism, has become A Figure of Controversy and I think we probably do not mention them.
But quite coincidentally this emerged today: who, according to work done by A Very Reputable Scientist sequencing DNA which does appear to be his, had a Disorder of Sexual Development (as intersex conditions are sometimes termed)? Did Hitler really have a ‘micropenis’? The dubious documentary analysing the dictator’s DNA.
Here is a thoughtful and nuanced piece by an actual scientist taking issue with some of the more tabloidy accounts A slightly different take on the news that Hitler’s DNA reveals some genetic anomalies. The most interesting thing to me is that history has a profound capability for irony.
That Hitler himself had a condition that was discovered and named by a Jewish man who also held some responsibility for the scientifically misguided murderous policies of the Nazis is at least a reflection that history is often imbued with a sense of complex and confusing irony.
WIPBB - Messy in the Middle (Harry Potter)
Nov. 12th, 2025 07:24 pmFandom: Harry Potter
Link: https://archiveofourown.org/works/70648771/chapters/183610671
Summary: An adult actually notices what is happening with Harry Potter, and his entire life changes for the better. Family, friends, and even magic await him away from the Dursleys.
Warnings: Major Character Death, Canon-Typical Violence, Canonical Child Abuse
Characters: Harry Potter, Dursley Family, Neville Longbottom, Hermione Granger, Dean Thomas, Nymphadora Tonks, Draco Malfoy, Severus Snape, Albus Dumbledore, Daphne Greengrass, Blaise Zabini, Augusta Longbottom, Amelia Bones, Andromeda Black Tonks, Ernie Macmillan, Other(s), Original Characters, Quirinus Quirrell, Tom Riddle | Voldemort
Pairings: Gen
When I Started: December, 2015
Saori WX60
Nov. 13th, 2025 10:20 amNote that this loom is lightweight, my preference (~30 lbs) but that means it will "travel" if you treadle hard. Likewise, by default it's only two harnesses. I unironically love plainweave so this is fine for my use case but if you have more complex weaving in mind, maybe not so much. (You can buy a spendy attachment to convert it to four harnesses, but...)
( Read more... )I haven't yet tested it, but the design of the "ready-made warp" tabletop system is fiendishly clever. Frankly, warping is potentially so annoying that it was worth the cost. I am considering a Frankenstein's monster modification that MIGHT make warping easier as well but I haven't yet tested it.

You Say Hello, And I Say Goodbye
Nov. 13th, 2025 02:00 pmThe arrival of a new baby is usually a time of joy and celebration.
Er...usually.
"Well, the stork was busy, so we figured we'd just chuck the lil' tyke out around 30,000 feet. Why? Is that a problem?"
You know, people are always talking about the sweet little toes and fingers and stuff, but you want to know the CUTEST part?
"Jus' wookit dat widdle ootsey wootsey skulley wulley!"
"Hey, anyone else think Julie's looking a little tense today?"
"It's all downhill from here, kid.
"MWUAH-HA-HA-HAAA!!"
Ahem.
"We call this one the 'Tub of Love:'"
"What do you mean, you're not supposed to put babies in full bathtubs?
"Ok, ok, FINE."
[splashing]
[thump]
"Better?"
Thanks to Elizabeth S., Marisa T., Anne J., Emily L., & Jilissa K. for throwing up the baby with the bath water.
Oh, throw OUT?
Um... sure, ok, thanks for that, too.
*****
P.S., See, now HERE'S a cute idea for a baby shower:
*****
And from my other blog, Epbot:
WIP Challenge Check-in, Day 13 -- Thursday
Nov. 13th, 2025 08:37 am- I thought about my fic once or twice
- I wrote
- I did some planning and/or outlining
- I did research and/or canon review
- I edited
- I've sent my fic off to my beta
- I posted today!
- I'm taking a break
- I did something else that I'll talk about in a comment
Thursday Discussion: It's almost the middle of the month already -- how are you doing so far with meeting this month's writing goals?
Brought to you be the letter A
Nov. 13th, 2025 12:33 pmHonestly if it wasn’t for the stranger things cafe and checking stuff I’d have gone much later, but alas. Train trips for gigs now are pretty eh. I mean the journey was fine, but my phone is useless and it’s not as if I can take anything to do or read.
And of course the ticket machine at the station was closed, there was no one on the train and even the fares to pay thing at the Birmingham station was closed so that was annoying.
But anyway. Mum had the ‘smart’ idea that I should check to see if the Hellfire jacket was at Primark and wear it to the gig. At the very least I was hoping to try one (the stock check before I left said there was some albeit low stock) so I went there first. But there was none in any size (I even asked someone to check, in case they were somewhere else since the one in Telford, and apparently elsewhere, has stuff spread out). Alas there wasn’t any, which was fine by me. (And probably for the best)
Since the cafe was open I did have the pizza twist thing and it was nice (other than the tough ends) but it also looks like this which is certainly… a thing. I had to have a drink cause it was warm but damn. A can of 7up was £2 which feels crazy to me.
After that I wandered round Birmingham a bit. The christmas market is on already so everything is annoyingly bright, but they have churros now! I didn’t get any but the smell was so nice. Annoyingly both the game outlet and forbidden planet had discounted figures, which I likely would’ve got if I’d been able (damn gigs being bitchy).
After wandering round the bullring (which was uneventful) I went to the venue and the queue was quite long, much longer than Coheed. After waiting around till doors open it was time to head inside, security felt a tad absurd checking my hat. Like what did he expect to find in there?
Inside the first support was on and he sounded pretty good, though I only heard two songs (and one was a cover of Chappell Roan) but I just went to merch. I’d seen some of the tees were nice looking so I got the grapes one cause Grapes is one my favs, though the dogs playing cards was so cute (I hope he adds it to his site later)
The second support were just ok, I couldn’t really make out what any of them were saying even when they were talking.
Then there was James’ set. For the supports I’d noticed there were these strange banner things up, so I just assumed they were some sort of decoration, but no! They were these really cool light things that changed colours over the course of the set which was good and pretty. I wasn’t a fan of the general lighting of the opening song though which was just every light flashing so I had to spend the song with my eyes closed for the most part.
But the set was really great! He played Car Lights which is always a fav and then Grapes was the last song which was an awesome one to end on. I was surprised Him was on the set list and there was the new California Rain song which has only been played this tour. Also we got Limbs which apparently isn’t one played often?
But James is one of those natural showmen, he interacted with the crowd constantly, did a roll and just looked so great too. Apparently our date was the biggest show they’ve played at so far, especially since it was sold out! (Which was a worry last sold out show I had at this venue people were passing out like crazy, thankfully that wasn’t the case this time but it was still so warm).
Apparently he does small sets after the gig outside but I didn’t know where it would be and didn’t wanna hang around (apparently it was right by the entrance which was annoying to find out! Though I dunno if I missed much).
I grabbed a poster from outside, then a drink from a store by the station cause I was parched and I just flopped on a seat at the station. Though I did get veggie sushi from a place at the station, though I wish I could more than one cause it was half off and didn’t know till I paid.
Everything then was just waiting around and then the train was delayed, then on time, then delayed but it was on time at the end. Once I got off the station and was walking home that was when I had an issue. I was about half way home and got my phone out to use the torch, then saw my tee had gone. I panicked and then had to ring it was gone) but I managed to find it. It was just across from the station laying on some leaves and I dunno how it got there. It was stuffed in the bag pretty good (or so I thought) and it had lasted the whole gig just fine so.., ugh. At least i got it.
At home I just flopped. I looked into getting the jacket on click and collect (I was gonna today but had to sort something for mum) so that should be in town by the time I go in for Predator Badlands/Keeper. plus I ordered the Lego Star Wars advent calendar cause Amazon had it for £14 off.
I did see the new Mario trailer before heading up and it looks pretty fun and very pretty.
In a bit I’m off for the other opticians appointment, then seeing the new Pokopia vid and tonight is the Taskmaster final which should be fun.
The Day in Spikedluv (Wednesday, Nov 12)
Nov. 13th, 2025 07:12 amI had breakfast at Burger King this morning. I was talking to myself as if explaining the process as I was opening the ketchup packets because I often get ketchup on my fingers. So I’m on the last one and I’m like, push the ketchup away from the arrow thingy so when you rip it open you don’t get ketchup all over your fingers. Yes, success! And then I immediately dropped the ketchup packet into the pile of ketchup already on the tray. I clean up the mess that results from me having to pick up the ketchup-covered packet and then shake my OJ, only to get it all over because I hadn’t put the cap back on tightly. I was like, what even is this morning?!!
I typed in all of the transcript notes I’d taken for Top Gun: Maverick, and watched a Hallmark Christmas movie and some HGTV programs.
Temps started out at 32.4(F) and reached 41.2. Both temps again higher than forecasted by a few degrees; it’s not much, but I’ll take it. At one point we even had a little sun.
Mom Update:
Mom sounded good when I talked to her. ( more )














